Post # 17
@socialbride86 – I’d love to go off on her but I want the kids in the wedding more than their parents do so if I gave an ultimatum, they’d just accept it.
I’m going to call her tonight after work. They tend to not answer the phone in their house, which is weird, but I’ve seen them do it when I’m there. They’ll look at the caller ID and just decide not to answer b/c they don’t feel like talking. Weird!
I’d like to talk to my brother about it but they share an e-mail address so he already knows based on the e-mail I sent yesterday that I’d like to see the dresses. Maybe I’ll try calling his cell tonight if I can’t get in touch with her.
Post # 18
Yesterday my Mom talked to SIL C and she tried to help me find the dress online but she wasn’t home and didn’t have enough info for me to find it (She wasn’t the one who ordered the dresses).
I was on Facebook last night and SIL A said hi to me on FB Chat. She started asking me about Bridesmaid or Best Man accessories (she’s a BM). All I could think is "you want my input on your friggin jewelery and you choose Flower Girl dresses behind my back?!?!!?" I asked her about the Flower Girl dresses and it took her FOREVER to respond. She was on the website looking for them. Apparently she doens’t know how to copy/paste a url b/c she sent me the name of the dress and told me it was from Macys. She added "hope you like it, I ordered 3 of them!" Then she quickly said good night. I said goodnight and then went to the Macys site and found the dress. It’s not something I would have choosen but it’s not awful and I don’t have the time/energy to find a new one. Plus they got a great deal (on sale for $15) and with my brother being laid off and rehired a lot recently, I don’t want to ask them to spend more. I realized that I was more annoyed about her going behind my back than I was about the actual dress and I needed to let her know that. So, even though we had both said good night and finished the "Chat" I responded with "I just found the dress on Macys.com, it’s fine, good night." Ok, maybe that wasn’t quite what she deserved but at least she knows I’m not thrilled about it. She responded and said it looks better in person.
I’ve attached a picture of the dress, they ordered them in white but I couldn’t find a picture of the dress in white.
Post # 19
- Wedding: June 2020 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum
aw… I think it’s cute. I’m not sure of the feel you are going for, but it’s still a cute dress. I can see how you would be frustrated though!
Post # 20
It’s not so bad! Maybe there are ways you can accessorize it (adding a sash, etc.) to turn it more into what you were hoping for.
Post # 21
I think it’s a cute dress! I vote for letting the matter go.
Post # 22
I think its a cute dress. It’s so weird that she didn’t want to show you the dress though. Obviously she knows that she’s in a bit of hot water (by choice). So disrespectful, but at least in the end the FGs will not be wearing some crazy monstrosity of a dress (I was imagining the worst kinds of dresses they could pick as I read your post).
Post # 23
I am so pissed off for you that she went behind your back and bought the dresses without checking with you first. Was it like a once a life time opportunity that she just HAD to buy it right then when she did without her asking for your opinion or she’ll miss out on the dresses?? I totally understand what you mean, the dress itself is not the issue, but it’s how she just went behind your back. I am SO MAD (lol) because I am going through a smiliar thing with my brother’s sister with my mother’s mother of the bride dress. (long story.) UGH!!!
Some people’s got some nerves!!
I am glad that at least the dresses she picked were acceptable to you, though. Thank goodness. Let this one go because you got more things to worry about, but keep an eye on her to make sure she won’t cause anymore trouble!! lol 😛