(Closed) Is it unreasonable to expect/want?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Would you mind driving 45 minutes to a ceremony and reception?
    I would be really upset : (3 votes)
    2 %
    I would only be slightly annoyed : (36 votes)
    24 %
    It wouldn't bother me : (110 votes)
    74 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    heck no! lol but i mean i live in san diego so i’m used to driving 30 minutes to just go to class. i think for one freakin day people should suck it up and deal!

    Post # 4
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    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Nope, our venue was about 30 minutes outside of town and we didn’t hear a peep!

    Our guests chose hotels in the city as opposed to closer to our venue!

    Honestly, I don’t think it really matters, pick the venue that YOU and your Fiancee want!

    Post # 5
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    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Last summer I drove all the way from upstate New York to Maine for a friends wedding. We turned it into a 5 day vacation. Then we went to another friends wedding a couple of weeks later that was about an hour away. No big deal.

    Post # 6
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    It wouldn’t bother me at all. More than an hour between venues woutd be too much.

    Post # 7
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    11356 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    A 45 minute drive probably would not bother me.  I had a friend who was married at a church in Manhattan and who had her reception on Long Island. It seemed to take just short of forever (really about an hour and a half) to reach our destination; however, her reception was totally amazing!!

    ETA: Although my ceremony and reception were held at the same location, I should note that the venue I chose was about 1.5 hours from where I and the majority of my wedding guests lived, and just about everyone else, including Darling Husband, had to travel at least three hours or more to our venue. I had many guests coming from out of state.

    Post # 8
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    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My Fiance and I drove an hour to a wedding for one of his work colleagues last year without batting an eye.  If they love you and want to attend your wedding the 45 min drive won’t deter them

    Post # 10
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    1650 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I don’t think that’s unreasonable.  But I live in SoCal and drive a half hour to work every day, so maybe my perceptions on travel times are skewed!

    Where are the closest hotels to the venue?  In the city 45 minutes away?  Are there any closer places to stay for people who think they may be tired at the end of the reception?  Also, I’m not sure what time of day you’re thinking of having your wedding, but I think 45 minutes of driving back to the city is even less of a big deal if you’re talking about an earlier wedding.  (But I still believe it’s not unreasonable even for a late wedding.)

    Post # 11
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    213 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    is the whole wedding going to take place at the outdoor location? if yes then I see no problem having the event whererever you want. 45 minutes 3 hours half way around the world! just let your guests know where it is and people who want to come and celebrate with you will be there!

    Post # 12
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    If the ceremony and reception are at the same venue, then the drive time doesn’t matter. Anyone who wants to be there will drive whatever distance it takes with no complaint, and 45 mins is a drop in the hat to alot of people (especially since many drive that distance or more everyday to work). A drive between venues is another matter entirely. Either way, there is nothing to be concerned with.

    Post # 13
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    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It depends if its a late wedding and there are no close accomodations. A few of our guests will be driving 45 minutes however most of the guests are from out of town and will be staying on site for our wedding. We like the idea of being close enough incase someone decides to drink too much or anything like that.

    Post # 14
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    45 minutes is nothing. About half of our guests had to travel around that distance to get to our wedding and I never heard a single complaint. Then again, quite a few of them chose to stay at the resort that night. 

    Are there any lodging options close to the venue? Even B&B’s would work depending on how many guests would need to stay over. 

    Post # 15
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I don’t think it is too far.  Where I live it takes me a half an hour to get anywhere.  Do a lot of the guests live in the city and not have cars, could that be an issue?  Have you considered offering a shuttle?  I have been to a couple of wedding that have offered shuttles, one was a school bus they were able to get, driver included pretty cheap since it was summer.  The added bonus is you don’t have to worry about people driving after drinking.  Not everyone will use it, but it could be nice to offer if you can afford it.

    Post # 16
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldn’t have a problem at all! We’re having our ceremony and reception at the same location which is about 30-45 minutes from the center of town. Our location is east of town and we’re inviting lots of people who live just west of town. Those people will have an hour to an hour and a half drive. Not a single person has complained or even remarked about it.

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