Post # 1
So my gf and I have been dating for 4 years and I really want to propose (I am on VDAY 2014). I’m 23 and she’s 24 btw, We’ve always been serious since we started out as friends before we dated and we’ve always talked about our future kids. We even have names picked out already for 4 kids (2 boys, 2 girls)
But everytime I see an interracial baby (I’m black and she’s Salvadorian), I get really giddy and I always want to shop for baby clothes to see how cute they are, is that weird. Don’t get me wrong, she likes doing it too, but I like doing it more. Do any of your husbands do that? Usually it’s the woman who get all excited over babies right?
I always wave to babies and smile at them (but I’m not a pedophile I SWEAR) but I always think parents think i am, i just like babies and can’t wait to have my own. Maybe it’s because I was raised by all women or something. idk
But is it weird?
Post # 3
@otto2008: My boyfriend LOVES babies. It’s adorable. Especially when we see Indian babies (he’s a halfie). We met his cousin’s baby at his dad’s wedding and he was fawning over her the whole time. I prefer this to my ex who was so awkward with kids!
Post # 4
@juliana192: oh good! i’m not alone. Yeah I think it spawns back to my own childhood. My father wasn’t around very much and I don’t want to do that with my kids.
I also want all girls, I’ll take a boy lol, but girls are better for me. i’ve never really been a MAN that society tries to create. I never really watched sports, didn’t hit on all the ladies in school, and was raised by all women so Im more emotional HAHAHA.
Post # 5
@otto2008: My guy is the same way 🙂 His dad is still a very influential person in his life, but he’s never been into sports or “guy” stuff aside from video games. Instead he loves singing and being emotional and affectionate. It’s great.
He wants a boy though, because he’s terrified of raising a teenage girl!
Post # 6
I think society ”made” women go crazy over baby clothing like that, and men mostly ”indifferent”, because as kids already we had different games according to our gender, and nursing, having dolls and taking care of babies was the girls’ department, and being tough, playing with trucks in the mud was the boys’ department. I’m sure there are tons of people who were not raised to love what society traditionnally expects girls to play with, and boys to play with. And it’s a huge taboo in many family still nowadays, to offer a doll to a boy. My own FBIL is like that. He will give ”manly” toys to his son, but if his son wants to play Barbie with his friend, FBIL would freak out.
I think it’s a good thing that we mix what used to be the traditional roles in society.
Post # 7
No no, not weird at all! I love that in men! My husband has a big, tough guy exterior, but he’s such a softie on the inside. It’s so cool that you do this 🙂
Post # 8
Men getting sweet over babies is absolutely lovely! If you like kids (and no one should suspect you are a pedophile for liking children/babies, that’s all kinds of wrong) you should be able to show it just as much as a woman.
Men are conditioned in to believe that they shouldn’t get excited over children, that it’s not ‘manly’ etc, but that’s just rubbish. I would take a man who’s enthusiastic about children any day of the week.
And as an aside, a man getting loving and hands on with his kids is so attractive!
Post # 9
My fella loves babies. He didn’t used to, but we met when my son was a bouncing 6 month old and after spending time with him and watching him grow to the almost 4 year old he is today, Ash (FI) can’t wait for us to have kids and loves cooing over babies we see out and about lol. I think it’s lovely, makes my heart melt!
Post # 10
I think that it is AWESOME that you are so happy over babies! My ex-husband really didn’t show much emotion over my children (yes, they were part his but they do not like claiming him as their father due to the fact that he isn’t in their lives for reasons that are in their best interest.).
I am proud of you for being so in love with the idea right now! Buy a few outfits if you would like.
Post # 11
@otto2008: Nope not weird. I’m kind of indifferent to babies while FI loves them. If someone is gushing over a baby picture it’s him. I’m not sure I’d even go through with having a child if it weren’t for him. I don’t feel competent enough to take care of one on my own, but I know without a doubt that he will be a great father, so with him on my team I’m sure we can do it. I’m more looking forward to around third grade or so when you can really start having conversations about the world with them.