Is it weird I don't want to tell my 'how he proposed' story?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I feel like SAYING you want to keep it private – while totally warranted- sounds a little more pointed than necessary. I feel like that will just make people want to hear the story MORE.

You can just say “oh it was sweet and simple and he did it at XX spot” or something like that. Give a single detail like the location or timing and most people will be satisfied. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

Nope, not strange.

FWIW, I have hardly ever heard anyone ask someone else how their proposal story went down. I feel like it’s primarily a thing in movies/tv.

Post # 18
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Blushing bee

 jellybellynelly :  Yep! There’s a bee here, can’t remember who, but her husband proposed totally naked right after they had… finished… I actually thought it was a super cute story but definitely wouldn’t want to share it haha. That’s where my mind would go if someone told me their proposal story was ‘private’.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

misslucy :  Really? I feel like almost everyone asked me this, and I used to work in a very woman-dominated workplace and every time someone got engaged they had to tell the story over and over and over again so everyone in the office could gush over it…

Post # 20
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Busy bee

baygull :  Right, in that case I would go with “he proposed at home!”

 

I agree that making a comment about wanting to keep the moment private is going to invite more confusion / quesitons. Just say something vague – you can even lie if you want to! I would just say something

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Everyone asked me that, too. I think people just like the happiness of proposals. I am a private person, too. I just gave them basic info—in my case it was at home on Christmas Eve. You don’t have to go into great details. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You have every right to be private. People are going to ask and tbh it would not occur to me to not ask. But if someone was vague or told me they didn’t want to share I’d respect that. I may think it was a naked proposal or something like that, but I’d keep it to myself as its none of my business. I can’t say that no one will push for info. 

You have every right to say you want to keep it private, but making a vague statement may be your best bet. It depends on the person. Your friend may respect your request for privacy. A cashier may be satisfied with “on x day; it was awesome,” assume it was a boring story and move on with their life. 

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper

DeepThought42 :  Congratulations! A surefire way to get people curious and wanting to know all about it (or thinking “who does she think she is?!”) is to say “we’d like to keep that private.” If you want to avoid that, do like PP’s suggested and give a brief generic answer like “we were home alone” or “it was while we were on vacation” or some vague but true statement. Most people are just being polite and show they’re excited for you so probably won’t press for more details.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I understand where you are coming from. I don’t give all the little details that made it perfect. I just say he proposed on a beach and it was a complete surprise.

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper

Not weird at all. Just be vague. Congratulations!

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Yeah just distil it down to basics like ‘he proposed in a park and it was very sweet’ and then distract them with your ring or something. If you say it’s private people are definitely going to be taken aback and start imagining all kinds of bad/embarrassing scenarios.

Post # 27
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Busy bee

DeepThought42 :  congratulations! I think I accidentally posted twice…

Post # 28
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Busy bee

DeepThought42 :  Congratulations!! Hmm… prepare a summarised version for public consumption but keep details in between u both n very super close ppl u want to share with. My fiancé didn’t address me by my real name but with the pet name when he proposed. Public version only got the real-name version, and nothing too elaborated. It will stop people from digging too.

Post # 29
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Worker bee

I feel the same way. I’m just a private personal in general and I was surprised how many people asked not only how he did it but specifics like did you/he cry, what did he say, etc. 

I usually just tell them where it happened, we were away for the weekend, and that it was very sweet. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

No, it is personal to you and your fiance!  I was fine with sharing our story as my now husband was SO SERIOUS when he starting talking I thought he was breaking up with me!!!  LOL!  There are parts of it I don’t share though.  Your story, your moments to keep to yourself!

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