(Closed) Is it weird if I let the guest eat first?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Let guest go on and eat?
    No, its weird : (24 votes)
    83 %
    Sure, nothing wrong with that : (5 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    2201 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think your guests might find it a little odd. Especially if your pictures take longer than expected and you’re still eating while everyone is grooving on the dance floor.

    I’ve heard rumors that it’s already difficult for a bride and groom to get fed at their wedding (too many people to talk with) and this might ensure that you don’t get dinner because the guests will want to talk to you during “your” dinner time.

    Post # 4
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think that is why there is a cocktail hour before the dinner.  That way the guests can nosh on something but you won’t be missing dinner.  Plus I think the bride and groom are supposed to be the first ones to dance at the reception.  Also, people will probably start bothering you during your dinner since they aren’t eating.

    Post # 5
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    why don’t you do a cocktail and appetizer hour? I think it’s strange to serve dinner without you being in attendnace..you are technically the whole point for the dinner anyways!

    Post # 6
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You can cut down on time, and not see your Fiance, if you have your all guy/all girl pics before the ceremony. That’s what we’re doing.

    Post # 7
    944 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think the other gals made great points and I would also try to have a cocktail hour while you are doing those photos.  While we are doing a first look before the wedding and getting as many photos done before the ceremony, we are still going to have a cocktail hour just in case not all photos get taken like we hoped.  Besides, everyone loves the food at weddings and the drinks (alcoholic or non–depending) so they can mingle. 

    Is it in your budget to have a cocktail hour?

    Oh, and from what I hear, it is common that the groom and bride don’t get a whole lot to eat or don’t even remember eating due to the excitment and chaos. My sister ate most of her plate, but she only remembers eating her green beans.  HAHA  We are having the same caterer for my wedding (hers was two years ago) and so she said she is definitely snarfing some food to make up for it.  HAHA 

    If possible, see if your caterer can provide a little basket of food for you to take with you to the hotel room to eat on if you wish you are hungry.  If you don’t want to do that, I say run through a drive-thru! HAHA  🙂 

    Post # 8
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I get why you want to do it.  If you’re not willing to hire more time from the DJ, then yes, I think it’s ok to let your guests eat while you take photos!  Just make sure your DJ MCs that part so they all know it’s ok.

    Post # 9
    838 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You dont want to look into having a cocktail hour? they will be having appetizers and talking that will pass time…and is your dj 4 hours from the time he get there or starts the music?

    Post # 10
    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I also vote on the coaktail hour idea. That’s what we’re doing. We’re opting to do an hour of the open bar during the cocktail hour (the last hour of the reception will be dry) and we’re doing to do our appetizers and our cheese/crudeite displays during that time. It gives the guests some time to socialize with us (we’re doing all the pics beforehand) and it will give them some time to snack before the dinner.

    Post # 11
    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t recommend that brides do this, because if they do they wind up not eating because everyone comes over to congratulate them. You should take all the pictures you can before hand then only the couple photos after. It will only take about 30min to do them if you do it this way. Trust me the pictures take a lot less time then you think. The guests will mingle and get drinks durning this time. Even with travel they won’t be bored long and your dj should be playing music from the moment someone steps in the door to the reception hall.

    Just thought I’d give my 2cents as a fellow bride to be and a dj.

    Post # 12
    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If you want to take photos during the reception and you are limited on time/budget, why not take them after dinner and after the first dances. Once people are dancing and partying, they might not miss you slip away for 20-30 minutes to take photos, so long as you aren’t going too far away from the party!

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