Post # 1
Wondering what everyone thinks… my fiance will be having a best man, his brother, they are very close and my fiance is really looking forward to having him as best man. I’d rather have no MOH/bridesmaids, as the friend who I would have chosen can’t do it and I don’t want to pick anyone else. But I worry that it will look strange/lopsided? I will probably be having a flower girl (7yo niece), I suppose she could stand where a bridesmaid would usually stand, but that might be pretty uncomfortable for her. Or does it not really matter? It’s not going to be a super formal wedding, if that changes things.
Post # 2
We had a black tie wedding with just a best man and no bridesmaids. It worked out fine. He and my husband walked in together and he stood up and gave the officiant the ring when it was time and sat back down. It was really nice.
The best man didn’t stand – he just sat in the front row, aisle seat.
Post # 3
In terms of symmetry, yes, it’ll look a little off, but who really cares? If you don’t want a Maid/Matron of Honor, don’t have one.
I wouldn’t have the Flower Girl stand up there for the whole ceremony. My Flower Girl (age 6) freaked out enough about just walking down the aisle – I can’t imagine how bad it would have been if I made her stand there while everyone watched her.
Post # 4
That’s exactly what we are doing – my fiance is having his brother as a best man, I’m not having bridesmaids. So I think it’s a great idea 🙂 I don’t know if our best man is going to stand the whole time or sit down – we haven’t gotten all that worked out yet – but I’m fine with it either way.
Post # 5
Thanks, that’s reassuring! Flower Girl is quite a confident, outgoing little lady who likes to be the centre of attention, so I actually think she might enjoy standing up the front in her pretty princess dress. I think I’ll just tell her she can do whatever she feels like doing on the day.
Post # 6
becca89: In my best friend’s wedding, I was her Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband had nobody. For me, it was weird. But that was just me, not the couple and in the end that’s all that matters. As long as you two are fine with it, that is what is important. And I think your Flower Girl could stand up for the ceremony. My FGs were 5 and 3 and my Ring Bearer was 6 and they all stood perfectly. 🙂
Post # 7
becca89: Then say out of respect for your bestie, you won’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor at the head table, but you could have some general bridesmaids floating down the aisle and decorating the place.. 😉
Post # 8
Yes, from first-hand experience, it’s weird. At first I was all “whatever, it’s my wedding, I’ll do what I want. No one will even care.” My husband had a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I didn’t have anyone. He stood at the altar during the entire ceremony (whereas, I thought he would sit after he gave my husband away). Everyone noticed and to this day when people see our wedding pics or video they always bring it up (“who’s that guy? Oh the best man? Why don’t you have anyone standing next to you? Isn’t there normally a maid of honor or something? That’s…different”). I wouldn’t care except reason why I didn’t have an Maid/Matron of Honor is a very painful memory, so it’s very annoying to have people constantly mention it.
Post # 9
becca89: I think it would be fine to just have a best man and no MOH/BM. If there is no one in your life that you want to have as a BM/MOH (except for the friend that is unable to do so) then it would be wise not to have someone fill the role just for the sake of symmetry. I think it would be nice if thre was a way for the Best Man to sit after you reach the alter or find a way to make him a little less noticeable during the wedding ceremony.
As you can see from the many, many, many, many posts….. bridesmaids and maids of honor are sometimes more of headache than a help….. trust me…… I know this first hand……. If i was to do it all over again I would have NO BRIDAL PARTY………
Post # 10
Fiance is having a best man but no groomsmen and I have 4 bridesmads. Best man is standing by Jon and just the bridesmaids will walk down the aisle.
Your wedding, your rules 🙂