(Closed) Is it weird or wrong to go dress shopping with fiance?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I go dress shopping with fiance?
    Yes : (58 votes)
    45 %
    No : (70 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think if you’re most comfortable going with him, that’s totally okay!

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Do what you want. That being said, I would never do this. Yes, FI’s opinion is what matters to me but I don’t want to miss that moment when he sees me for the first time walking down the aisle. Yes you’ll be all done up and look “different” on your wedding day, but it still will be less dramatic if he knows what the dress looks like. If that isn’t important to you then of course invite him, its your wedding and everything is up to you, not what people think is weird

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If that is what you want then do it lol. I wouldn’t take my Fiance because I want him to be surprised and he isn’t very patient when it comes to shopping. But if that is what you are comfortable with then take him along 🙂

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i dont think its “wrong” at all. they say its “bad luck” but thats crap!! I wanted my Fiance so see my because hes very metro and has a great style but he insisted not to..so i was like ok whatever! lol. I say go for it if you want to.

    what you could do …which is what I ended up doing is after I narrowed it down to three I showed him all three to make sure he liked all three…and just dont tell him which one your getting. my Fiance didnt go with me to look at dresses I just showed him a pic over the net. But if yours is going with you, you could just narrow the selection down to your faves and then have him step out when you make your final desicion or go back another day when hes not with you.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I took my bf the first time i went dress shopping to get a feel for what he loves, while I tried to just get comfortable in a dress.  That way, when I went to go ‘find’ the dress I knew what he liked, and what made me comfortable.  I was so happy I did that, cause I was able to make an informed decision, and be confident that it was indeed the dress. Also, with me going to find it after figuring out what he likes, he truly has no clue what the dress looks like 😉

    Post # 8
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t think it’s wrong or weird at all, and if it’s what you feel most comfortable doing than I say go for it!  Like you, my fiance is my best friend and I had a really hard time dress shopping without being able to talk to him about it. It wasn’t so much that I wanted his opinion, it was more that I wanted to talk to him about what I was thinking and what the dresses looked like because I talk to him about everything.  He never went with me dress shopping, but in the end I just didn’t feel comfortable making such a big purchase without some sort of input from him, so I ended up showing him pictures of my top contendors (on the model, not on me) just to make sure he didn’t absolutely hate any of them.  It made me feel better. 

    Post # 9
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Wrong? No. Weird? No. Am I going to do it? No. Like PPs have said, it’s really up to you. If he’s your best friend and you think it won’t take anything away, then I see no reason for you not to just because I wouldn’t.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If you both want to do it then go for it! My boyfriend has much better style than me and I always get his opinion on what I am wearing. I’ve often wondered what I’ll do when dress shopping comes around.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee

    I say go with him. My FH was with me every step of the way and neither one of us regret it.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I told him I wanted him to go with me but when it came to the day I just could not do it. It felt wrong. I did let him see pictures of me in the last 3 dresses I was choosing from though. I actually bought my dress when I was by myself….. Went shopping once with mom and sisters and then went back and tried on the one I thought was it and bought it then..

    I honestly think it depends. My Darling Husband is so so so crazy picky about stuff so I thought he would be great to take but the more I thought about it I just didnt think it would work. I thought i would focus too much on every word he said. Silly I know. Anywho if you think it would work for you guys you shoudl do it. 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m too traditional. I said no. But if you can’t see yourself being able to pick without him, and no one elses opinion will help… then do. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    This has been SOOOOOO hard for me. I want his opinion more than anyone elses. I ended up asking him questions. I showed him like 2 of each silhouette (one simple, one busy). I showed him lace and taffetta. I showed him beads and nothing. I asked what he saw in his head. He had VERY specific ideas surprisingly, he just couldn’t voice them. It was like he knew what he DIDN’T like (ruching, pickups, ballgowns, princessy gowns, any sleeves at ALL, halters, trains, french bustles, backless…all OUT!). He even said he liked ivory better than white because it matched both of our skins better, but white might be better in pictures and he knew those were important to me.

    In the end I have a gown that he basically picked out, but he has no clue what it looks like. I’m also considering another gown that he knows I would love and it’s almost identical to the other with a few different accents. I confided in his best man and a groomsman who is a close friend and both said they loved the choices, and that they wished more women asked in that way, since they do care what you look like, but they don’t want to be overwhelmed and don’t want to break your heart killing your dream dress either. (Our questions and answers were broken into 2-3 little 15 minute discussions).

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    BTW—I asked HIM if he wanted to see the dress beforehand to give an opinion, and he said no. It was important to him to wait til the big day…so maybe ask him!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If you both want to, then do it.

    I didn’t because he really wanted to see me for the first time in it on the wedding day. I didn’t care much. But he was in Afghanistan, so he really wouldn’t have been able to come with anyway.

     

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