(Closed) Is it weird or wrong to go dress shopping with fiance?

posted 11 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I go dress shopping with fiance?



  • Post # 32
    8 posts
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I picked out a dress then asked Fiance to come see if he liked it..he did and I bought it a few weeks later. He’s my best friend and has great taste so when buying outfits for big events I always ‘drag’ him along and this was no exception. If you are both cool with it,I say go for it! Besides you’ll look different on the big day with hair,makeup etc..

    Post # 33
    2160 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I went with mine, after shopping without him and trying to figure out what he would like and regretting a few choices along the way.  Then I asked him to go BUT… I only showed him styles of gowns, not the ones I’d actually be wearing in the wedding.  So, I showed him a ball gown, a line, fit and flare, trumpet… lace, silk, taffeta… and he was very clear on what he liked best.  The biggest surprise (and relief) was that he didn’t like lace and didn’t like trumpet or fit and flare!  Which was exactly what I thought he would like.  He fell hard for the most elaborate Pronovias ball gown.  I was shocked! 


    So, if he’s up for it~ have fun!  But I’d save the one you think you love too (the one you’d wear in the wedding) for the wedding day.  Just get him to see what he likes on you so you can still have that “wow” moment.

    But you know… having him pick out the dress with you wouldn’t be such a bad thing either.  Do what’s right for you and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks… he might really appreciate knowing he was there with you through the entire planning experience!


    Congrats!  🙂

    Post # 34
    2933 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was all about Mark coming with me to get his opinion, but then I thought man, I sure would like for the first time he EVER sees me in a dress to be the day of the event… so I changed my mind.  I’ve been driving him crazy with all kinds of pictures of dresses to see what he might like though.  That’s helped a lot (sorta… his tastes are apparently VERY different from mine!)


    Post # 35
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I asked Fiance if he wanted to go with me and he said no, but moreso because he would find it boring not that he wanted to be traditional. I showed him pictures of me in the dress though so he still knows what it looks like. I trust his opinion more than anyones so I wanted to make sure he liked it as much as I do (and he does!). I don’t feel that him seeing the dress beforehand is in any way bad luck or less special. Besides, he’s a man and our wedding is in 7 months. There’s no way in hell he’s going to remember what it looks like.

    If you want him to go and he’s cool with seeing you in wedding dresses then hell yea! I see absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting to share this experience with him. Actually, I think it’s really special! 


    Post # 36
    68 posts
    Worker bee

    im not into dress shopping with him, i want it to be a surprise. what im really not into is spending the wedding night awaay from him! i think it be nice to spend one last night together anticipating the day of events, but his mother keeps bringing it up “he will be staying with us at our house, i think he should spend his last night in his old house with the family” i makes me sad everytime i hear this

    Post # 37
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Aaargh. NOOOOOO! Please don’t do it. Pretty please! You can go through magazines together, watch Say Yes to the Dress together, get an idea of what he likes. I understand where you’re coming from but there must be a friend who you can trust to go shopping with you and not lead you astray. I really think there is magic in the surprise.


    Post # 38
    5259 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Whatever works for you.

    Post # 39
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @topaz925: If you read the above comments you can see that lots of other Bees has their fiances go with them and it worked out just fine. Just because you didn’t want your Fiance to go with you doesn’t mean that it’s wrong for someone else to want theirs to go with them. 

    Post # 40
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I don’t think there is a problem with it at all. Especially if he envisions you in a certain type of dress, and you want him to have input in your choice. Personally, I didn’t want to go with my fiance. And he refuses to hear about it or see it before I walk down the aisle (which is almost annoying because I want a first look). Anyway, I think you should go with whatever pleases you and your fiance! 🙂

    Post # 41
    1113 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Just beware that if the dressing rooms are not out in the open that the staff may not allow any men in the back area. You can always just walk out in the dress to go see him.

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