Post # 1
My SO doesn’t make a ton of money (he’s not poor, but his job is unpredictable and he has to do a lot of things pro-bono). I don’t care much about material things, and while I definitely want an Engagement Ring (we’ve talked about it many times), I don’t really care how big it is. In fact, I told him I don’t even want a diamond because that way he will have more options for size, and be able to spend less money (plus I love color, I’m always wearing something very colorful).
However it seems like a lot of women associate the size/cost of an e-ring with how much their SO loves them or values them. To me this is just silly- I’d rather him not go into bankruptcy buying me a friggin ring. Am I devaluing myself by saying, “get whatever you want as long as it’s pretty”? I honestly would just want something that was cute to me, if it cost $1000 i wouldn’t even care. (And wouldn’t want to know, honestly)
Post # 3
nah not weird at all.
The ring I fell in love with has white and chocolate diamonds, but is only 629$. We’re still looking though and I’ve found several other gemstones I love..I’d love Morganite, or Opal.
Or any pink gem really. We aren’t very traditional and I’m not a huge fan of diamonds to begin with. I want something unique that suits me.
What does drive me nuts is sales people at the jewellery stores trying to convince me to get a diamond ring.
Post # 4
Personally, I love the idea of a diamond (takes so long for the earth to create this natural stone). Also, I find the notion of a man saving up to get something exquisite for his woman romantic and charming. So, I personally want a diamond.
However, it’s your relationship and your life – why do you care what others think about this?
Post # 5
While I think diamonds are predictable, I think the woman has the right to choose whatever the heck she wants to wear. I mean, you’re the one who has to wear it! You should love it.
Also, I don’t agree your fi should have to spend his life savings to buy a ring.. my ring was $319.. does my fi love my less than someone who gets a $10,000 ring? No. He doesn’t. We are just starting out in life and have better things to spend our money on.
Post # 6
It’s not weird. Lots of women (including me) have gemstone erings. However just because it’s a gemstone does not automatically mean it’s cheaper. My gemstone is extremely rare and costs much more than a diamond of equivalent size and quality.
Post # 7
This is exactly why I wanted a moissanite for my ring. Why the heck would I want him to pay $3000 for a little sparkly stone (that he doesn’t even get to enjoy)? I’d much rather us put the money toward loans or house than a sparkly piece of jewelry!
Post # 8
nope, not weird at all.
if my center stone hadn’t been given to us, i was going to go with a moissanite. i’m indifferent about diamonds. they’re pretty and classic, i like them, but they’re overpriced.
Post # 9
@Luayne: +1 oooh may I see your ring it sounds beautiful. OP you do what makes you happy regardless of what stone you get!
Post # 10
Personally, I LOVE my INSANELY expenive diamond! But I do like material things, and I do like our lifestyle! So a diamond was perfect for me.
But no two people are the same! If you love colors and want a crazy gorgeous gemstone ring, that’s your perogative! I’ve NEVER seen a gemstone e-ring and thought “Wow, she must have a cheap FI!”
I think “Wow! I can’t wait to see her wedding dress!”
Post # 11
Although it may have been “weird” 10-15 years ago to wear an e-ring that wasn’t diamond, the times are changing, as you can see just by perusing the ring boards! Women are using their e-rings to symbolize their love AND their personalities, and if you aren’t a diamond girl, then you’re just not! You get what you like!
Post # 12
No, that is not weird at all. 🙂 Get what you want!
Here is my morganite and rose gold ring.
And my pink topaz/white gold ring.
Post # 13
@BrandNewBride: that means a lot. I just don’t want to look like I’m selling myself short but honestly id prefer him to spend that money on a vacation with me! Lol
Post # 14
@anon00: Historically, sapphires used ot be the traditional engagement ring before DeBeers marketing made people think of diamonds for engagement rings, and even today Princess Kate wears a sapphire engagement ring (from Princess Diana), so I think there is absolutely no reason to feel obligated to get a diamond if you don’t like them.
I personally LOVE the color blue, so it was important to me to have sapphires in my engagement ring. My center stone is moissanite, and it cost a fraction of what a diamond of comparable size/quality would have. I have never regretted having a moissy instead of a diamond.
Post # 15
OP, its definitely not weird at all. I wanted a colored stone, personally. Diamonds are very pretty, but just not my style. Also, like Luayne said, just because its not a diamond doesn’t mean that its less expensive than a diamond (or that actual value isn’t more than a diamond, price mark-ups taken away).
Diamonds are definitely great for some people, but I do hope that women get the ring they want and not the ring that they think that they’re “supposed” to have. Most of the bees have bees on here have definitely chosen rings that mean something to them personally instead of just going with the “norm”. You’ll see a lot of bees with gemstone rings or very unique diamond rings. =)
Post # 16
@anon00: Not at all. I used to be in love with the idea of a sapphire halo (and would still love it if that’s what he got me). Right now I have my eye on a moissanite solitaire that has stones in the setting (not in the shank, but the part that actually holds the stone); I want to have those stones removed and changed to black diamonds or onyx.