(Closed) Is it weird that I feel self-conscious about this?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@vanessa7: I think you can tell people, and i’m sure if you aren’t braging and just say that that’s where you are going, people won’t think you are trying to show off.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m going to the Maldives and we are soooo excited that we both tell people all the time! I dont care and neither should you. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I know what you mean…and we dont even have a bunch of money to brag about…I always make sure that I say we got it on airmiles! lol

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re going to Turkey and Italy (not quite as extravagant as Bora Bora!). FI’s family does not travel anywhere internationally so I always feel awkward telling them about a trip. I have traveled the world since I was 4-years-old so its just normal to me and my Fiance happens to love traveling too. When I told his family we were going to Europe for a month in 2012 they just looked at me, undoubtedly thinking, “…why?” So when we decided on our honeymoon I pretty much expected the same type of response and its basically what we got, haha.

I’ve gotten to the point that I just accept that people have different interests and priorities, so I don’t feel bad telling people. I don’t go out of my way to just randomly mention it to people at work or anything, but if someone asks I don’t feel bad.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s not bragging to tell people when they ask directly or otherwise seem interested to know. IMO it’s bragging to tell people when they haven’t asked (even indirectly), and it’s bragging to post it on FB.

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ok, here’s the thing… Technically, it is bragging, but there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s something you’re excited about, not everyone is able to have this thing you’re excited about, but you just want others to be excited for you. While this is technically what bragging is, it’s not malicious or hurtful and you shouldn’t feel bad for it. We all brag about things under the guise of just sharing news, and sometimes even manage to convince ourselves that we really are just sharing news without asking for praise and such.

 

It just comes off awkward when someone brags while trying to feign humility, and there’s no reason to do it, because people have the right to feel proud of joyful about good things happening to them. If I ever (rarely) feel like sharing something braggy, I just say, “I have to brag for a second, I’m so excited…” and then fire away. Or if it’s seomthing people would know to ask about anyway, I save it for that time. If it really bothers you to bring it up, you can always wait until people ask. 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@vanessa7:  Just bring it up if people ask. Some will, I’m sure. Don’t post it on FB or anything. Bora Bora is on my bucket list. Enjoy it!!!! It’s amazing.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I guess you have your answer just by the responses here. Some WILL see it as bragging and others won’t. You have a decision to make. I see people on my FB posting where they are going on trips all the time and I never think anything of it. I see it as no different than posting if you are buying a home or new car.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

@vanessa7:  You’re not bragging – I think you’re a bit too self-conscious.  Don’t talk about it any less or any more than if you were going on your honeymoon in, say, the next state over.  Plus with the availability of easy credit, pretty much anyone can travel anywhere.  If one of my friends sid they were going on a honeymoon to Bora Bora, I’d be excited, regardless of whether I thought I could afford it or not.

I wouldn’t post it on FB, not for reasons related to bragging, but because you don’t want the wrong people to know when you’ll be away from your house on vacation – I’ve heard of people getting robbed that way.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@vanessa7:  It is not bragging! People ask you, you answer. End of story. By the way, we went to Bora Bora for our honeymoon too! It was a blast! Hope you’ll enjoy it too!:)

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