(Closed) Is it weird that I just don’t like all the attention?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Although I can’t relate to what you’re feeling, I wish you the very best! I think it’s time that you share your anxieties with your Fiance

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I felt the same way. I even snuck into the bathroom and cried at my bachelorette, family dinners, the rehearsal, before the stylist came, etc. I just hate people looking at me and paying attention to me. I will do it for work or if I have to, but I’ll probably freak out too.

The good news is that on my wedding day, it was totally fine once I was in my dress. Hubs said he never saw me so outgoing as on that day and we really had a lot of fun. At the reception, we set up our table in a private corner. Hubs knew how I felt and told me to just remember that people are asking or doing things because they care, and in some cases that was important and we had to go with it. And after a little cry, I always was able to dive in and have a great time. 

I wouldn’t have gone back now and missed out on all the fun things we did that initially I panicked or hid from (or tried to). That being said, hubs was always rreminding people that i preferred lowkey things. He spoke up for me when I couldn’t. Talk to your fiancé and make him your ally.

Plus…The day of is so much easier than the events leading up to it.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think all people who are being really honest like the attention. 🙂

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@Ms Spitfire:  Mmm. I think in some cases it’s hard. I have GAD (hahah autocorrect made that gas at first lol) so generalized anxiety disorder. Once I got past the panic and anxiety then i did enjoy it though! 🙂

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Ugh, I feel this! I feel guilty everyone is trying to throw a shower or spending money to fly to come see us or buy dresses or whatever.  All these people spending money to see me hop around in a dress for half a day? It doesn’t make sense to me and I just want to fade into the background and pretend it’s someone else’s wedding so I can actually have fun?

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@oracle:  YES to the showers making me nervous.  I wish Fiance was required to come to those, he’s so much better with people and conversations. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance was at my shower and it made it better. My fiance LOVES the attention, and he cannot wait for his family to come into town. I keep hearing him tell people on the phone “It’s gonna be a good time.” Not to mention it’s going to be 80 people from his family, and 40 from my family. So I feel like it’s a family reunion not my wedding. At least my FI’s dad has come to his senses and has decided to pay for all the food and alcohol since it’s his whole family we’re feeding.  

I am excited about the 400 flowers that are arriving  at my house 3 days before the wedding, they are going to be so pretty and smell so good.

You gotta focus on the positive. 🙂

Post # 27
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Newbee

I’m also not that excited about my wedding and feel the same way as @bookworm88. I feel guilty about people spending money to come and taking away a Saturday from busy people!  

Friends are asking me if it’s because I am not happy about getting married but I am- just not thrilled about being the centre of attention – it’s just not who I am!  

 

Post # 28
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Busy bee

Nope, you’re not alone! I’ve never wanted the huge, princess-for-a-day wedding. Not me, at all. Even what most people would qualify as a small wedding would probably be too much for me. I don’t want the attention, and I don’t want gifts! I’m hoping that I’ll be able to have a very, very small, quick wedding, like 20 people, tops! lol

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