(Closed) Is it weird that I want to test alone??

posted 4 years ago in TTC
  • poll: How did you test??
    Alone and it was fine : (66 votes)
    89 %
    Alone but I wished I had my partner/friend with me : (3 votes)
    4 %
    With partner anxiously waiting outside the bathroom door : (5 votes)
    7 %
    With a friend/family member : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    Member
    3755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’ve always tested alone. When I got positives it was usually when he was at work and I couldn’t wait to tell him so I’d call him. I wish this time I had waited and done a fun surprise, but I can’t keep it in!

    Post # 3
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    9606 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    aussie_25:  You can do whatever you feel most comfortable with… 

    Not telling him if you get pregnant starts falling into a more grey area (though even then, some would argue it’s still fine since it lets you decide whether or not to abort without outside influence) but wanting to find out and figure out how to tell him and how you feel about it on your own is unquestionably OK IMO.

    Post # 5
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    1624 posts
    Bumble bee

    aussie_25:  I tested alone at work, and I’m really glad that I did. I started crying right away when I saw the positive result and was immediately overwhelmed and emotional. I think my husband would have been scared about my reaction, and been afraid I was sad about being pregnant (which I wasn’t). Do what works for you, it’s just you and baby for 40 long weeks, so you are entitled to some private moments. 

    Post # 6
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    808 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We don’t have kids yet, but I’ve taken tests for scares before and I always test alone. I don’t want him there when I start testing when we actually try. I would rather tell him in a sweet way than showing him a pee stick lol

    Post # 7
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    3729 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    aussie_25:  I’ve never tested with Darling Husband here. I want to have time to process the news. The only time I tested with him close by (very wanted pregnancy), I burst into tears and he was so confused. It’s better to get your head around the news first.

    With my first pregnancy Darling Husband wasn’t home and I absolutely didn’t call him and tell him the news. I waited until he got home to tell him.

    With scares I always tested alone for the same reason. I wanted to process first.

    Post # 8
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    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I tested alone and I’m glad I did. We were trying; this is definitely a “wanted” pregnancy (I’m 12.5 weeks) – but whatever the result was, I wanted to have time to process it by myself before I told my Darling Husband. Having a baby will be a huge change in both of our lives, but at the moment it has a much bigger effect on me than on him, and I wanted some time to myself to digest the news. (Plus I was so nervous I did the first test wrong, and  didn’t want to have to explain to him how the different tests worked 🙂 )

    Post # 9
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    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m a POASaholic so I always test alone.  I don’t want Darling Husband to know how many tests I actually take, he’s one of those guys who figures one test if you’re already a week late is fine sufficient.

    Post # 10
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    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Before TTC, I always pictured myself testing with my husband. In my mind, we would look at the same time, and start crying and hugging each other when we saw a positive.

    Nope. I ended up testing like crazy, and I’m glad I did it alone because most of them were negative (not knowing my cycle after the pill and testing too early). I showed the positive ones to my husband, though. I even put a bow on the positive digital one that read “pregnant” and put it on his chair. The best part of doing it alone is that you can reveal it to your SO creatively, if you want to 🙂

    Post # 11
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I tested alone and was nervous about DH’s reaction. We were trying but it was our first attempt and I don’t think either of us thought it could actually happen. When I got the positive I freaked. Hid the stick and tried to play normal but I couldn’t even string a sentence together. I contrmplated waiting one day to tell him because we had a big outing the next day planned and I didn’t want to “ruin” it. I can’t keep a secret though and ended up telling him 15 min after I found out. He was amazing and ecstatic and surprises me every day since how dedicated he is to this new life. Don’t worry!!

    Post # 12
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    2554 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I always test alone  I go a bit crazy so I just like to tell him the results. Plus with my first BFP I was away from home and he was at sea where I had to wait for HIM to call ME on the worst phone ever. I waited two hours before I told him and therefore anyone else! Torture!

    Post # 13
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    1066 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Im not TTC persay, but due to fertility issues on my part, Fiance and i have been NTNP for about a year. It is very unlikely i will fall pregnant naturally without medication so we would rather keep the option open for as long as we can. 

    I have had a couple of late periods where i have decided to test, however i never told Fiance and did it alone. I figure theres no point getting his hopes and other emotions up only to have a negative. If i got a positive i would probably call my best gf straight away as she can keep a secret, would be thrilled and help me process, and then i would tell Fiance that night. I think its pretty normal for women to test alone, particularly if its quite early.

    Post # 14
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    2521 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I tested alone. I wanted to find out and have chance to process the information before sharing. It was positive and I told Darling Husband the next morning when I saw him again. 

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