(Closed) Is it weird that my bf & I booked our wedding venue before he proposed?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My Fiance & I did not do this but I don’t think that it’s weird at all. Especially nowadays when you have to book a venue 1+ years in advance. If you know it’s going to happen, then why not?! Also sounds like that place is pretty popular 

Post # 3
1323 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We did not do this, but probably only because the places I like don’t accept more than 12 months in advance. I don’t think it is weird at all!

Post # 4
6605 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you’re already booking venues and picking dates and putting deposits down, then call him your fiance and not your boyfriend because y’all are engaged. Congrats!

Post # 5
16 posts

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alexachristine:  I dont think it’s weird at all, in fact it’s incredibly smart. I think the ring and the tradition of proposal is the makes the engagement official. However, the engagement begins when you’ve had the conversation about a long term partnership and your future together. The ring is just the symbol of that long term partnership. 

Post # 6
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Is it weird? Yes. Is it wrong? No. 

Whatever works for you guys, you should do. 

Post # 7
7440 posts
Busy Beekeeper

We booked our venue before the proposal. Not weird if you have healthy communication and expectations 

Post # 8
2922 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Not weird. My SO told me to start planning as well because I was worried about how much time we would have, we know we are getting officially engaged soon he just doesn’t have the ring yet.

Post # 9
2737 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I think we booked our venue before DH proposed…  I don’t remember if we actually booked it for sure, but we were definitely looking at venues and had selected our date before he proposed. So I don’t think it’s weird, lol!

Post # 10
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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Horseradish:  What she said.

You may not have a ring yet, but you’re engaged.

Post # 11
699 posts
Busy bee

If you are planning a wedding you are engaged, you don’t need a ring to be engaged. The bee taught me that, I guess it’s pretty common on here to be “engaged” without a ring.

In my circle it would be strange- my friends and family don’t plan weddings until we have rings on our fingers.

Post # 12
1383 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I would ignore the people who are telling you you’re engaged already. That’s a very personal decision to make between two people and it’s not anyone else’s right to tell you what you and your boyfriend should call yourselves.

To answer your question, yes it’s little weird but no, it doesn’t matter. My Fiance and I started talking to a wedding planner before he had proposed (and I HATED it when strangers on this site barged in and told me they were going to make decisions for us), and it really helped us a lot after he did officially propose. 

Post # 13
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Private lodge


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alexachristine: NO its not weird. We did this too – YES YES YES.  You’re obviously in a healthy, communicative, adult relationship.  Why wouldn’t you book your dream venue when you both know whats on the horizon.  LOCK IT DOWN 🙂  Hopefully it can help you when the waiting for a proposal gets difficult.  Do it your way!

There isn’t one ‘right’ way to plan your lives.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 7 months ago by Free2bme.
Post # 14
856 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s weird, yes, but if that’s what works for you… so be it.

Post # 15
2079 posts
Buzzing bee

It just means you are already engaged – planning to marry. 

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