Post # 1
Last week my bf & I booked a very ‘sought after’ wedding venue in our hometown. It has been my dream venue since FOREVER, & I found out that they only had 2 Saturdays left for the summer of 2016. We have been together for almost 5 years. We have talked about getting married before, we have already discussed what our first child’s name will be (named after his deceased brother), our families are extremely close, the list goes on. So back in January I found out he asked my parents for their permission to propose. I found out bc he was SO excited they said yes (really, you thought they’d say no after 5 years? haha) that he TOLD ME. Such a dork. So I know I’m getting engaged sometime this year, so we both agreed we should set a date with our venue. Both our parents were very willing & open to the idea of putting a deposit down. I think it’s partially bc they know his proposal plan. Any thoughts on this? Have you done it? Thanks everyone!
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Post # 2
My Fiance & I did not do this but I don’t think that it’s weird at all. Especially nowadays when you have to book a venue 1+ years in advance. If you know it’s going to happen, then why not?! Also sounds like that place is pretty popular
Post # 3
We did not do this, but probably only because the places I like don’t accept more than 12 months in advance. I don’t think it is weird at all!
Post # 4
If you’re already booking venues and picking dates and putting deposits down, then call him your fiance and not your boyfriend because y’all are engaged. Congrats!
Post # 5
I dont think it’s weird at all, in fact it’s incredibly smart. I think the ring and the tradition of proposal is the makes the engagement official. However, the engagement begins when you’ve had the conversation about a long term partnership and your future together. The ring is just the symbol of that long term partnership.
Post # 6
Is it weird? Yes. Is it wrong? No.
Whatever works for you guys, you should do.
Post # 7
We booked our venue before the proposal. Not weird if you have healthy communication and expectations
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
Not weird. My SO told me to start planning as well because I was worried about how much time we would have, we know we are getting officially engaged soon he just doesn’t have the ring yet.
Post # 9
I think we booked our venue before DH proposed… I don’t remember if we actually booked it for sure, but we were definitely looking at venues and had selected our date before he proposed. So I don’t think it’s weird, lol!
Post # 10
What she said.
You may not have a ring yet, but you’re engaged.
Post # 11
If you are planning a wedding you are engaged, you don’t need a ring to be engaged. The bee taught me that, I guess it’s pretty common on here to be “engaged” without a ring.
In my circle it would be strange- my friends and family don’t plan weddings until we have rings on our fingers.
Post # 12
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
I would ignore the people who are telling you you’re engaged already. That’s a very personal decision to make between two people and it’s not anyone else’s right to tell you what you and your boyfriend should call yourselves.
To answer your question, yes it’s little weird but no, it doesn’t matter. My Fiance and I started talking to a wedding planner before he had proposed (and I HATED it when strangers on this site barged in and told me they were going to make decisions for us), and it really helped us a lot after he did officially propose.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2015 - Private lodge
NO its not weird. We did this too – YES YES YES. You’re obviously in a healthy, communicative, adult relationship. Why wouldn’t you book your dream venue when you both know whats on the horizon. LOCK IT DOWN 🙂 Hopefully it can help you when the waiting for a proposal gets difficult. Do it your way!
There isn’t one ‘right’ way to plan your lives.
Post # 14
It’s weird, yes, but if that’s what works for you… so be it.
Post # 15
It just means you are already engaged – planning to marry.