(Closed) Is it weird that my bf & I booked our wedding venue before he proposed?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

For me, it’d be weird, but for you, it’s right! Congrats. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

We started looking before the proposal – agree with pp about you guys being engaged between yourselves already but the proposal and ring signifying the official engagement!

Go for it!

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We booked our venue when he hadn’t officially proposed yet.  He did it on my birthday, 9 months out from the wedding.  

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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alexachristine:  What’s right for you is right for you. That’s all that matters. I took a trip to see a venue that I was IN LOVE WITH before I was technically engaged previously. When we got there and she said she only had two dates left (2 years out) I was in SHOCK! I couldn’t believe people were booking their weddings two years out. I thought I was totally ahead of the curve but I guess not.

If it’s the one you are in love with it would be better to be safe than sorry and miss out on it. If your fiance was ok with it and your parents as well then I’d say go for it. Technically if you’re planning a wedding that means you’re engaged. Engagement rings and proposals are a pretty new tradition and weren’t always the norm

Post # 20
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Newbee

I don’t think it’s weird at all. If you both agreed that it is going to happen, why not? Especially if it’s the venue you’ve been wanting. 🙂 Congrats!

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think it would only be weird if one of you did it behind the others back, but because you did it together, I think it’s sweet.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s a little weird- but I don’t see a problem with it as long as you aren’t going behind your future fiance’s back to do it

Post # 23
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Busy bee

We booked our venue before we were officially engaged and then he actually proposed at our venue about 6 weeks later. Our wedding coordinator told us “I like the order you guys are doing things in!”. We are having a short engagement (7 months) and didn’t want to wait. I think it’s pretty common these days because popular venues book up so far in advance.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think its fine.  After 5 years, you deserve the perfect venue and the perfect proposal.  Only you know when the time is right for the two of you!  Also, my wedding is on a Friday because when we started looking for a venue (14 months in advance), all the Saturdays were booked for the spot we wanted.  Many places fill up fast!  Part of getting married is planning your life together, and it sounds like the two of you have a plan!

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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alexachristine:  Um, he kinda doesn’t need to propose anymore. Congrats on your engagement!

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

We had talked 3 weeks and basically had most of our wedding planned when he proposed. And yes, we basically had the venue booked as well–we skyped the manager of the venue in the morning and 4 hours later, he proposed and I had no clue he was gonna do it then! Now you just have to sit back and wait but I don’t think it will be that long 🙂

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Seriously you can call it whatever you want but if you’be made an agreement to marry, then you are engaged, and if you’re putting money down on venues, I hope to heck you have agreed to marry each other!

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We did it, so I’d be a hypocrite if I said it was weird. We knew when and where we wanted to be married, but my ring was custom and took a while to be made. So we booked the venue, and three weeks later he proposed!

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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alexachristine:  to each their own. You do what works for you

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

With only 2 dates available and everyone knowing it’s coming – why not? You got your dream venue!

 

Oh and the whole proposal thing – even if you know it’s coming, you’ll still be shocked and so happy. I knew mine was coming but I was still speechless! I don’t think having a venue will throw off that experience either. =)

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