(Closed) Is it weird that my bf & I booked our wedding venue before he proposed?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
3 posts

I don’t think it’s weird, We’re doing the same thing! 

Post # 32
1617 posts
Bumble bee

We booked before the official proposal. πŸ™‚

Post # 33
1767 posts
Buzzing bee

Technically if you’re already planning then you are engaged. Congrats!!

My OH and I are in the same situation. We’re not “ring official” yet but we’ve already started planning everything and are putting a deposit down on the venue at the end of the week. Everyone important pretty much already knows. My mum has booked the venue for our engagement party (she wants to throw us one), and his folks have already helped him write their part of the guestlist because OH is a bit of a scatterbrain and will definitely forget a few key family members lol.

Post # 34
2366 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I think within my social circle people would expect to see a ring, but if you did it this way it’s not wrong. No matter how you decide to spend your life together, it’s the most important conversation you’ll ever have πŸ™‚

Post # 35
6263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Who really determines what’s weird? Lol

do what works for you two….

Post # 36
304 posts
Helper bee

I wish I could convince SO to do this. We are openly discussing a summer 2016 wedding but he has not proposed yet! I am so worried that the nice (and affordable!) venues will be booked by the time his deadline to actually pop the question rolls around!

Post # 37
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Not at all. My Fiance and I had already put down a deposit before he actually got down on one knee, but we had also mutually agreed that we were going to get married in 2015.

Congrats on your engagement πŸ™‚ 

Post # 38
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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allyson.m88:  ha! I’m not the only one!

We basically planned 70% of the wedding and chose a venue before he proposed. Acually, I even bought my dress and had it altered before he proposed…  In my defense, we both knew it’s coming and we are in LDR, so not too much choice of “when”, we knew when it makes sense to get married to speed up the process of moving, and there was a sample sale. Then my parents were coming for a visit and I didn’t want my mom to find the dress, and she’d go snooping for sure.  So I had to leave it at the seamstress πŸ˜€

OP, I think it’s a smart decision. You know what you’re doing, take advantage of that extra time. 

Post # 39
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Muckenthaler Mansion - Fullerton, CA

We also booked our venue before the official proposal. It’s just the way it worked out with our timing and everything… we were living abroad and had to do a few things backwards. As long as you and your boyfriend and family are all on the same page – do what makes sense! Don’t stress too much – getting engaged for most people is more than just a moment at the proposal. It’s a process – so enjoy it! πŸ™‚

Post # 42
19 posts

Not traditional, but not weird. Congratulations, you’ll be officially engaged before you know it!! The way I see it, the down-on-one-knee proposal shouldn’t ever really be a TOTAL surprise because you and your SO should have already had the necessary talks before making that life decision. You two were just smart enough to jump on your favorite venue before it got taken, and the ring will just be the icing on the cake. Yay!!

Post # 43
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We looked at a venue last week and I don’t have a ring on my finger yet. I know I will by the end of summer. 

Is it my ideal situation to book before we’re officially engaged? No. But it IS realistic.

Good venues book up quickly and if you know when and where you want to be married, waiting to book can be risky. 

Post # 44
13 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’d say it’s unusual, but not weird. Weird implies there’s something wrong with it but if it suits the two of you and you’re happy then that’s great!

Post # 45
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t think it is weird…I am actually collecting information about venues and hope to make a decision soon.  I don’t know when he plans to propose (ring has been purchased already) but I do know our wedding will be Oct 2016 so I don’t want to risk not having the venue I really want.

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