(Closed) Is it weird that my boyfriend's sister keeps buying him clothes?

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

My family does this sort of thing all the time, especially if we know each other is looking for something. We even give each other slightly used things (usually kitchen items) we no longer want.  I got a panini press that way.  Lol

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

I wish my fiances sister did this! lol Mine hates clothes shopping half the time just buys jerseys I’d love someone getting him nice clothes lol

Post # 18
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Worker bee

I often buy my brother clothes.  He is particular and if I see something I know he would like, I pick it up.  

 

I don’t see the problem.

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I think that sounds like they have a wonderful sibling relationship.  I hope my children continue to care for one another and be generous to each other as they get older.

Post # 20
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Helper bee

Agreed with PP’s. It’s his sister. They have a long relationship together. It’s great that they’re so close, that she looks out for him and will take him to lunch.

Don’t read into it – and I’d suggest not mentioning anything. It could either taint his closeness with his sister, which would be a shame, or reflect poorly on you.

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Neither me or DH were close to our siblings, but our son and daughter are super close and buy each other things all the time.  Your SO is lucky enough to share a special bond with his sister; don’t be weirded out by it, in time you will find your comfy spot inside the family circle.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t think so at all.  I’m close with my siblings (all sisters) and I’ve bought them clothing “just because” before, if I’ve seen something that is a good deal or I just know they would really like.  I think it’s a really nice gesture on his sister’s part and probably indicative of a close relationship which is pretty cool.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I want to just say a quick thing from the “big sister” point of view. Me and my 2-year-younger brother are very close. We have gotten each other through some very rough times. We see each other about once per week and chat daily.  He has had several girlfriends over the years that have started to get weirded out by our relationship. Every single time it happened, he dumped the girlfriend.

A sound word of advice from one bee to another; keep the “clothes gifts from sister makes you uncomfortable thing” to yourself if you value this relationship with your boyfriend. Her doing that is completely normal.
Above all remember, she is his sister not your competition.
As a side note, it might not be a bad idea to invest a little bit of time trying to figure out why you are feeling threatened by this in the first place. You will be happier in the long run if you do.

Best of luck Bee! hugs*

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper

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Mlim :  It’s his sister…..free clothes….calm down

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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Mlim :  it’s not as common but not weird. She’s not competition.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Obviously from all the responses I can see I’m a lone voice here but I think it’s a little weird, if it was just for bigger occasions like Christmas and birthday then fine but the constant drip feed of clothing him and feeding him makes it seem like an overbearing mother or even acting like a pseudo gf. 

 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

Yeah I don’t know why you’re weirded out by this, it’s his sister. 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Huh? This is even a question? I’d be really hurt and confused if my sibling’s SO questioned my gifts to him. I hope my brother never winds up with someone who sees our sibling relationship as competition or something crazy like that.

I randomly buy clothes for my brother all the time. If I see a dorky t-shirt or even pajamas I know he’ll like I snap them up. I browse online shops a lot for myself (too much, really!) so I frequently stumble across cool items that are perfect for him. It’s not about who has more money to buy this stuff; it’s about my finding something I know he’ll enjoy getting and wearing. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My SIL is the queen of bargain hunters, and she randomly buys clothes for any of us in the family if she sees a good deal. I usually luck out because I’m one size larger (meaning I get what she buys herself that ends up a little too big), but for my husband, who wears a big size, she’ll buy a lot specifically for him. Part of this, she jokes, is selfish–she doesn’t want him dressed like a slob in her photos! I don’t find it weird or uncomfortable.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

 

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Mlim :  i think its normal. It would bother me more if she never got anything for you but just for him. Does she at least ever include you? If not maybe you can start a trend like if you see something you think she may like get it for her.

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