Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
We are inviting about 170 or so people (including children) but my fiance isn’t super stoked about the big wedding to begin with. We lost my sister before the holidays last year and three more family members within the last few months. Originally we had planned to run off and elope in a slot canyon in southern Utah- but with all of the tragedy, and the fact that I am now an only child- my parents really wanted us to have a wedding. I was reluctant at first but now I am actually having a lot of fun planning everything. It’s nice to have something to look forward to. FH doesn’t have many opinions, but one of them is that we don’t need a bridal party. Since he doesn’t have much input, I want to make sure he has his say too since it’s also his big day. It seems like a minor compromise that I don’t see a problem with. We just spent the last year participating in a bridal party and I don’t want to put anyone out anyway. My friends can be a part of whatever they’d like to- without the obligation. I know we can do whatever we want- and we are, but I am just wondering how uncommon it is not to have a bridal party. Has anyone else heard of that.
ALSO- where the hell do I put my flowers at the altar!? A table or something?
Post # 2
keysha : It’s not weird at all.
Post # 3
Just hand them to your mom.
Post # 4
We didn’t want one either. But then we needed witnesses, and my friend and sister wanted to stand for us, my.niece n nephew asked to be fgirl and rboy…
Normally you will lay your flowers on the altar
Post # 5
Not weird. It’s your wedding, do what you want. We skipped lots of traditional things and had lots of compliments that our wedding was nice and relaxed, more like a big party than a wedding with a strict timeline. We only had a maid of honor and best man. No bouquet toss, garter toss, speeches, bach parties, showers, rehearsal, flower girl, ring bearer. Everything turned out just fine. Hand your flowers to your mom, grandma, whoever you want 😊
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2020 - Wisconsin Dells
We are not having a bridal party. My fiance’s niece will be our flower girl and my brother is just going to stand up and hand us our rings when it’s time. My mom or his mom will grab my flowers and hand them back to me once the ceremony is over. Someone actually told me not having a bridal party was a “smart, mature” decision. Not everything needs to happen like it appears to happen in other weddings. 🙂
Post # 7
We didn’t have one. Made life much simpler.
Post # 8
We aren’t having a wedding party other than a flower girl and ring bearer. It makes perfect sense to us, partly because some of the people we would choose to be in our party tend to clash, among other things. I have had a few people think it is a little strange or wonder why we want to do it that way but for the most part we’ve had a ton of support in all our decisions (even the ones they find to be unusual or don’t expect of us LOL). It’s your day if thats what you want then do it!
Post # 9
We’re skipping the bridal party. I’m going to give my bouquet to my grandma. You can also put them on the altar as decor. My friend has a bunch of bridesmaids and she is already facing drama.
Post # 10
We didn’t have a bridal party/best man either and it was absolutely fine. My brother was ringbearer and my mum held my flowers during the ceremony. We had over 80 people attending so not a particularly small wedding either, so it’s definitely managable.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
We didn’t have a bridal party and have no regrets about it. It made things so much easier not to have to think about the extra planning and people herding that comes with having one. I gave my flowers to my sister who was in the front row.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2020 - Austin, TX
We arent having one either. I think my BFF and his are a little miffed but it is what it is and that is what we want.
Post # 13
I know people who have done this, isn’t weird at all. Actually having a bridal party is kind of odd once you think about it, I mean, other than the two witnesses the other members of the bridal party don’t really serve any purpose.
Post # 14
We didn’t have a bridal party. Flowers got handed to the young daughters of a good friend, who we jokingly called our “reverse flower girl”.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
Thank you for your responses. I feel better knowing I’m not a weirdo (in this case anyway). My friends all thought it was weird and were kind of bummed out that I didn’t ask them to be bridesmaids. After being a Maid/Matron of Honor during the last year though, I learned time and time again that I can’t rely on other people- they will usually (always) let you down. I already deal with a lot of anxiety and I don’t want to deal with the drama/expectations/disappointment if people don’t follow through with things. My friends still want to throw me the parties- though I insist they be small and easy because I don’t want to be a burden, especially since they don’t have the obligation. I am having a flower girl and ring bearer- our really good friends have the CUTEST kids and I have known both of them since they were pretty much born. That’s about it.
I really do appreciate the feedback guys 🙂 I’m sure I’ll be back with more questions as time goes on.