(Closed) Is it weird to attend a baby shower when you’ve never met either parent to be?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I guess you could go if you wanted to try to make more of an effort with his family on his behalf, but I personally would feel extremely uncomfortable going to a shower for someone I’d never met, especially if I didn’t know either parent-to-be.

I would send a nice gift and a note suggesting dinner or something once things settle down with the new baby so you can meet them.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@abbie017:  This.

My shower is coming up and I was just informed that one of my stepmom’s friends that I’ve never met is coming. I don’t know who she is and the only way I’ll know it’s her is that she’ll be the one that I don’t recognize!

If you do choose to go, kudos to you! I would opt for sending a gift and a card, myself.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well the parents to be could just be gift grabby and inviting everyone they know.  However, when little ones come into play, families seem to reach out more in my experience.  I would look it as an opportunity to meet more of DH’s family.  Plus it would look good for you to attend.  Can your Darling Husband go with you?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It would definitely be weird, but if it’s family, I don’t think it’s a problem to go. Especially if you want to deepen your relationship with them.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Good for you for wanting to get closer with your DH’s extended family!

As for why they invited you, it could be that they have a rule that every female in the family must be invited to showers, or maybe it really is just a gift grab.

I also have to agree with the PP. I went to a bridal shower last summer where I knew only the couple, and not even that well. For my own bridal shower, Mother-In-Law had invited random relatives that I had never met, and I knew maybe 40% of the guests. So I know from experience that this can make an awkward situation for both sides.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it’s a nice gesture and they probably included you because you are family now. I think it’s great so they can meet your baby.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper

I don’t think it’s gift grabby. I think they were trying to include you as family, and that’s sweet. I’d go only if I knew that at least someone I knew (the aunt?) would be there. It could be a great way to get to know your in laws!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would go, it’s a great way to get to meet and know the family.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I actually think it’s a nice that they reached out and included you.  Sometimes that first contact is a little awkward, but I’d probably go.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would go. It’s a great way to start bonding with your DH’s cousins even if he’s not willing to bond with them. I’m sure your Father-In-Law would appreciate it as well since he is close with his siblings.

By The Way, I’m like you, close to my cousins even though we’re spread throughout the world. Where as Darling Husband never even knew the ages and birthdays of his cousins who live a stones throw away until I entered the picture and started bonding with them. So I see nothing wrong with you becoming friends with your DH’s cousins.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s not gift grabby- it’s family. For all you know, the mom-to-be is pressuring HER husband to establish a better relationship with his cousins, just like you’re always bugging your husband.

This is a great opportunity to get to know your husband’s side of the family better. Go, bring the baby (such a great ice breaker, moms to be love talking to new mommies to get tips!) and have a great time!

And at any baby/bridal shower, there’s always people who only know one or two other people, or who don’t know anyone at the shower. So no one will be looking at you funny.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I got invited to my cousings gf’s baby shower and I had never met her. I went. It’s a family thing and they wanted to include everyone. Makes sense to me.

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