(Closed) is it weird to be married and have separate bank accounts?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: is it weird to keep separate accounts?
    makes sense to me : (115 votes)
    68 %
    you're weirdos : (41 votes)
    24 %
    other. : (14 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    467 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    we plan on doing the same thing, so i vote no, not weird at all 🙂

    Post # 4
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    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We have separate accounts because we never got around to combining them. We have just divided up our expenses with him paying a certain percentage based on his income and me paying less because I make less money. We will combine eventually but we are lazy 🙂

    Post # 5
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    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    He will have an account, I will have an account, and then we will have a joint account that both of our paychecks go into.  Fiance will not have access to anything except his personal account…I will be responsible for putting money in his account and making sure bills and such get paid.

    Yeah, I’m the man in the relationship when it comes to finances and Fiance knows that.  He gets access to money and all of a sudden he can’t see straight!

    Post # 6
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It’s weird to me and I would not be okay with this kind of set-up but I know many people do this so it isn’t abnormal.  You have to do what you and your Fiance are comfortable with.

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I personally wouldn’t do it but whatever floats others’ boats.  Neither of us feel guilty about spending money, but we talk about large purchases (which I would still do even if you don’t combine accounts) and we make sure that we are working on going toward our common goals.

    Post # 8
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    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It sounds fine to me, and that’s what we do too.  But after Fiance and I get married, we’re going to have a joint checking and joint savings account, and then just set up automatic deposits and deductions to maintain our own spending money but have an easier time paying for groceries and bills and whatnot.  Do what you want though, no problem.

    Post # 9
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    3525 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Hell, we’re married and still have separate accounts. I want to put a dent in my student loans before combining accounts, and Darling Husband is okay with it. He makes more money than I do so he pays rent and bills–I pay for going out, groceries, etc.

    Post # 10
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    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We’ve always had seperate accounts and it works for us, so why mess with a good thing? Do whatever works best for you!

    Post # 11
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    5784 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d find it odd if you didn’t have even a joint savings account after you got married. Fiance and used to split bills, groceries etc.. but it was such a relief when we stopped, I didn’t like keeping tabs.

    Post # 12
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We will have a joint account, but also keep seperate accounts.

    We will pay rent, home bills, etc from the joint and then incidentals, cc bills etc from our own.

    We also have our own separate investment accounts.

    Post # 14
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    7364 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Our accounts are separate.

    Post # 15
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    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    This falls into the category of “It seems to be the norm on WB, but I don’t know anyone IRL who acts this way” – except a few friends who roll their eyes and admit they haven’t gotten around to combining finances yet, because they haven’t made time to go into the bank and close one account.

    Post # 16
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @ddw: Yeah – I’ve found the same.  When I said that is seems a lot of people do this, I meant on WB.  I don’t know anyone in real life who didn’t combine accounts when they got married.

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