(Closed) Is it weird to call someone a Maid of honor if theyre married?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: yes or no?
    Nope, Maid is fine : (114 votes)
    55 %
    Yes, she should be Matron, even if she doesnt want to be : (95 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
    9556 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s kind of silly for her to not like the correct terminology. But it’s not worth hurt feelings. So I’d roll my eyes and go with Maid.

    Post # 4
    846 posts
    Busy bee

    I think Matron of Honor sounds old. At every wedding I’ve been to where the maid of honor was married, they were still called Maid of Honor. 

    I’ll be making the same request when my sister gets married.

    Post # 5
    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @MrsWinTraining2014:  If anything, it’s going to be her that looks weird, not you. Despite what she wants to be called, it doesn’t take away from the fact that she is, in fact, a Matron.

    I didn’t vote because I honestly don’t think it matters either way. If I were the bride and my Matron would rather be called the Maid, that would be fine with me.


    Post # 6
    2612 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I wouldn’t be that bothered but I’ve been to a few weddings where they did this and heard many guests pointing out the “error” since they knew the MOH was married.

    Though once I was at a wedding where the MOH was single and listed as Matron of Honor. That turned out to actually be a mistake.

    Post # 7
    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Does she still wish to be called Miss LastName?

    So odd to me. Once she is married, the title becomes Matron of Honor.

    Post # 8
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MrsWinTraining2014:  I think it’s fine. Many of my friends are married but also very young (one married at 20) and “Matron” sounds old to them lol

    I just like the term Maid of Honor because it’s more common and I don’t have to keep correcting myself.

    Post # 9
    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t think it’a a big deal. When would anyone actually call her that at the wedding anyway? I’m totally drawing a blank. 

    For what it’s worth, my husband is SILs “maid” of honor for her wedding in a few months (she was his best “man”) so switching out matron with maid isn’t too bad! 

    Post # 10
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MrsWinTraining2014:  On a similar note, for the PPs who agree it should stay Matron ….do you call married Bridesmaids – Bridesmatrons?

    I know traditionally speaking the bridal party was made up of unmarried women but it’s not so easy to do that now-a-days…

    Post # 11
    8469 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I guess you can call her whatever you want, but I find it odd that someone wouldn’t want to be called matron instead of maid.  To each their own.

    Post # 12
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Let’s be real, not many of the ladies who are up there are going to be “maids” these days anyway, even if they’re not married!! I think she should be allowed to be called what she prefers!

    Post # 13
    3508 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Matron of Honor does sound old but that’s the proper term. My Matron of honor is actually younger than my Maid of honor its kind of funny.

    Post # 14
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA

    I don’t think it matters either way.  I think Matron of Honor sounds kind of odd and I really don’t think many guests would notice either way.

    Post # 15
    3057 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I’ll have a matron & a maid. I can’t really imagine not wanting to be called a matron of honor if I was married. that’s interesting.

    Post # 16
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    It’s traditional that any married woman (whether currently married or divorced, widowed, etc.) is titled as matron of honor, which unmarried women are called maids.  You are the bride, so it’s really your call in the end. 🙂

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