(Closed) Is it weird to get an engagement announcement in mail and no Save-the-date?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
23593 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SamanthaLovesJames:  Engagement announcements are certainly done, but seemingly just not often. 🙂 Stay tuned for the STD! 😀

Post # 4
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@SamanthaLovesJames:  not odd. they might not have a date set to send a STD, or it might be a few years off yet.

Post # 5
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

Announcements no matter what type… are just a notice to give some one a “head’s up” as an act of courtesy…

There is NEVER a requirement to them… they are just a nicety

So that includes… things like.. Engagement Announcements – Save The Dates – Wedding Announcements – and lol, Baby Announcements

In this particular case you’ve been notified that the couple has gotten Engaged

They probably haven’t set a date… or even begun to plan a Wedding

Save-The-Date Cards are also a notice… and not a required element either.

So it is quite possible, that the next piece of Wedding Stationery you see from this couple could be their Wedding Invitation be that a month from now… or 3 years from now.

Hope this helps,


Post # 6
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

PS… Engagement Announcements do not require a reply… but it is a nice gesture, to reply with a Card filled with Best Wishes.


Post # 7
9096 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You got an engagement announcement. Nothing more. Maybe they haven’t even planned anything yet.

Maybe you won’t get save the dates — I didn’t do them, and they’re not a requirement.

Post # 8
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In my experience, people like to send engagement announcements when they don’t plan to get married for a few years. So it’s a way to share their engagement, but they haven’t necessarily begun to plan a wedding yet.

Post # 9
9134 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Crindy:  That is what I would think to.  Otherwise, they would have sent a save the date.

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