Post # 1
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Helper bee
- Wedding: June 2016 - City, State
DH and I were talking about what to get to our parents and grand parents this year for Christmas and I suggested giving them a homemade wedding album, customized for each couple (my parents, his parents, his grand parents) + some framed pictures form the wedding. He tought that it was completely tacky to give them those gifts for Christmas and that we should give that to them regardless and find something else for christmas. What do you bees think?
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
Yes I would expect you would give them that irrespective of Christmas, so I think you should not pass it off as a Christmas gift, more something you hand over when you arrive. And then a wrapped gift for under the tree.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I agree with pp. While I think it’s a lovely idea, I don’t think it should be a stand alone Christmas gift.
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
Their gifts should be about them, and not about you.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I agree with horseradish.
If you want to get them those, great, but that should not be a Christmas present.
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
My dad requested an album as his Christmas gift.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
Super tacky IMO.
It makes Christmas about YOU.
Nope
Post # 8
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Helper bee
- Wedding: June 2016 - City, State
Thanks for the input everyone! I agree that the gift should not be about us. Just to give a few more details:
– we already shared with them the wedding pictures.
– Mother-In-Law and his grandma saw a digital scrapbook I made recently (not wedding related) and wanted me to do one like this for the wedding. That’s why i thought about it..
but clearly that doesn’t seem to be a good idea! We’ll look for something else!
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
I recently gave our in-laws a wedding photobook and some framed pictures from the wedding. My Mother-In-Law loved them so much she actually cried! I think it would have made a perfect Christmas gift. It’s been a couple weeks since she got them and she still tells us how much she loves them when she calls.
A wedding is never just about the couple (unless you elope), it was a special and important day for your family as well. If they are sentimental (as my Mother-In-Law clearly is) I think it makes a wonderful Christmas gift and isn’t at all making Christmas about you.
Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
unless they have explicitly stated they want one as their christmas present, it’s weird.
(ETA:giving an album is fine, and if you give it around Christmas that’s fine. I just don’t consider it a Christmas gift.)
Post # 11
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Helper bee
I dont think its a strange gift for a parent or grandparent. I think they would love it. It would be a strange gift for anyon else
Post # 12
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Busy bee
I’m going to go against the grain, however I think that’s a perfectly acceptable gift. At least it’s something hat hey sound like they want rather than a dust collector that they have no want or need for.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
We gave our parents and my husband’s grandmother framed family photos from our wedding for Christmas. It was part of the present for our parents, and it was the whole present for my husband’s grandma. (Hers was a huge blown-up shot of everyone on her side of the family- her kids, grandkids, and great grandkids.) I also gave my friends framed photos of us together at my wedding as part of their present. Everyone loved the photos, and hey, we paid a buttload of money for the rights to those images, may as well actually use them for something.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
I think they can be part of a present but not the whole thing. I’d also think about where the presents will be opened as if everyone is together you don’t really want person 1- album, person 2- wedding photos etc. Otherwise that would make it about you.
Personally, I’d not want an album of a wedding for anyone other than a few photos of immediate family. I’d much prefer a lovely photo frame with a photo in and a couple of spare prints that I can change into it. Realistically I’m not going to sit down and go through an album regularly.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I think that in theory it doesn’t sound like a great idea… but I honestly love it! Especially if they are personalised/ handmade albums that would suit them 🙂 I think my mum and Future Mother-In-Law would love it (and the grandparents always ask for photos as presents!), but I would probably get them something else just for them as well. You know them better than we do!