(Closed) Is it weird to have formal invites with silly RSVP cards?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we requested responses to be in about one month before the wedding that gave us enough time to track down the lazy non responses and still give the final head count to venue a week before the wedding. i dont know if it is weird to have funny rsvp cards i dont care for them. be formal the entire way or be casual .dont mix and match in my opinion

Post # 4
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

I think its better to stick with a formal RSVP.  It would strike me as really odd to get a formal invite with the wording of the RSVP you wrote.

Post # 5
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yes it would be sort of odd, unless that’s what your doing for and people are expecting it because its part of your personality.  

I don’t care for “funny” RSVP cards though so I’m biased, I’ve never read one that was funny to me. I won’t be doing them my family would be confused by it.

Post # 6
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think you should keep the formality consistent between invitation and rsvp.

Post # 7
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

i think its a super cute idea. it really depends on who you are inviting though and your and their personality!

Post # 8
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

I think it’s cute and I like the idea. 

My friend did something similar though and she said some poeple didn’t get it.  She got RSVPs where people were obviously not sure how to answer.  Seems straight forward but never underestimate peoples’ potential lack of understanding

Post # 10
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think you just have to be careful about how you do it. For example, if you took out the “bells phobia” part, I think this would be better, and I’d cut the casual “Who’s In.” People usually indicate the number if it’s unclear from the name line without you having to ask separately. I’d go with something between this and fully formal. Maybe:

The favor of a repsonse is requested by the DAY of MONTH.


____ will attend with bells on!

____ will attend, no bells.

____ will not attend

And I’d leave it at that, or if you must, put the dance line after that.



I would get responses 1 month to 3 weeks before the event. Too early and people will have to decline because they cannot yet commit. Too late and you will have a hard time catching up with the no-response people in time for catering deadlines.

For reference, we had fairly formal invitations and this was our RSVP card:

Post # 11
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I wanted pretty much that exact same thing on my RSVP card, but Fiance said that it would be tacky with our formal invitations. I still love the idea though.

Post # 12
13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t like silly RSVPs to begin with, and I think it looks weird with a formal invitation.

Post # 13
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I saw one that was similar. “_____ will not attend. heard there would be people with bells.”

As cute as it is, silly RSVPs with formal invites is like the dude at the black tie wedding in jeans. Everyone wonders why the two levels of formality are mixed together.

Post # 14
2488 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

hmm thinking.

its not a complete like OMG don’t do that but for me I’d be like WTF ?

but I guess who it came from too if it came from my Maid/Matron of Honor i’d be like oh silly. If it came from my bridesman I’d be like hell yes and if it came from an average friend i’d be like.. urm.. urh.hum.

sorry i bet this is no help!

Post # 16
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s great! It shows a little spark of personality in what can sometimes be a very formal and played out thing.

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