Post # 1
We’re going to have formal invites, however, I found an RSVP idea that we both thought was funny and we’re not opposed to using it. It’s like this:
__ Will be there with bells on!
__ Will attend, no bells.
__ Will not attend, has bell phobia. Sends regrets.
Number Attending ___
I promise to dance if you play ______________________________.
Please RSVP by November ##.
Will it be weird to have formal invites with this? And while we’re on the subject.. how far out do you request that RSVPs be in by?
Post # 3
we requested responses to be in about one month before the wedding that gave us enough time to track down the lazy non responses and still give the final head count to venue a week before the wedding. i dont know if it is weird to have funny rsvp cards i dont care for them. be formal the entire way or be casual .dont mix and match in my opinion
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
I think its better to stick with a formal RSVP. It would strike me as really odd to get a formal invite with the wording of the RSVP you wrote.
Post # 5
Yes it would be sort of odd, unless that’s what your doing for and people are expecting it because its part of your personality.
I don’t care for “funny” RSVP cards though so I’m biased, I’ve never read one that was funny to me. I won’t be doing them my family would be confused by it.
Post # 6
i think you should keep the formality consistent between invitation and rsvp.
Post # 7
i think its a super cute idea. it really depends on who you are inviting though and your and their personality!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
I think it’s cute and I like the idea.
My friend did something similar though and she said some poeple didn’t get it. She got RSVPs where people were obviously not sure how to answer. Seems straight forward but never underestimate peoples’ potential lack of understanding
Post # 9
@LemonLavender: That’s part of my fear with doing this, I’m worried that some people won’t get it :/
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think you just have to be careful about how you do it. For example, if you took out the “bells phobia” part, I think this would be better, and I’d cut the casual “Who’s In.” People usually indicate the number if it’s unclear from the name line without you having to ask separately. I’d go with something between this and fully formal. Maybe:
The favor of a repsonse is requested by the DAY of MONTH.
____ will attend with bells on!
____ will attend, no bells.
____ will not attend
And I’d leave it at that, or if you must, put the dance line after that.
I would get responses 1 month to 3 weeks before the event. Too early and people will have to decline because they cannot yet commit. Too late and you will have a hard time catching up with the no-response people in time for catering deadlines.
For reference, we had fairly formal invitations and this was our RSVP card:
Post # 11
I wanted pretty much that exact same thing on my RSVP card, but Fiance said that it would be tacky with our formal invitations. I still love the idea though.
Post # 12
I don’t like silly RSVPs to begin with, and I think it looks weird with a formal invitation.
Post # 13
I saw one that was similar. “_____ will not attend. heard there would be people with bells.”
As cute as it is, silly RSVPs with formal invites is like the dude at the black tie wedding in jeans. Everyone wonders why the two levels of formality are mixed together.
Post # 14
its not a complete like OMG don’t do that but for me I’d be like WTF ?
but I guess who it came from too if it came from my Maid/Matron of Honor i’d be like oh silly. If it came from my bridesman I’d be like hell yes and if it came from an average friend i’d be like.. urm.. urh.hum.
sorry i bet this is no help!
Post # 15
I think I’m going to stick with formal RSVPs.. I can just imagine this confusing people! Thanks for all the feedback!
Post # 16
I think it’s great! It shows a little spark of personality in what can sometimes be a very formal and played out thing.