Post # 1
So, our ceremony and reception are in the same location, a large ballroom. At first I had thought of setting chairs up in a traditional ceremony style on one side of the room, then moving them to the tables after the ceremony was done.
After meeting with the venue planner today, she said moving 120 chairs will be pretty chaotic and disorganized, and that I should consider just having everyone seated at their assigned tables for the ceremony.
Has anyone done this or been to a wedding where it was done? Is it weird or were there any issues? Any thoughts/input are appreciated!
Post # 3
I think we may do this because we are getting married in a campsite and will need seating for everyone when the super short ceremony is done. I haven’t been to a wedding like that, but I have heard other people say they have.
Post # 4
@lollygagon: the last 2 weddings i went to were like this. everyone sat at the tables during the ceremony then stayed at the same tables for dinner afterwards. I liked it because it wasnt so much moving around. Fiance and I are planning to do the same…to me its too much of a hassle to have to drive somewhere else or having to move over 100 chairs
Post # 5
That was our backup plan in case of rain. Our ceremony was outside, but there wasn’t anywhere we could put a tent, so we would have just had it in the reception space. Thankfully we didn’t have to, but as a guest I would have no problem with it.
Post # 6
I personally wouldn’t be a fan of this and it’s not something I would do. However, if it will make your wedding day easier and less stressful to do this, then I think you should.
Question, are you having a cocktail hour in between? Could guests be outside of the room after the ceremony to allow time for staff to rearrange the chairs?
Post # 7
My worry is that it might make guests feel detached from the ceremony if they’re seated all the way across the room and possibly angled with their back to you. It’s our venue’s backup plan in case of rain, and I really hope to avoid it. I’d like my guests to feel engaged and be able to watch while comfortably seated facing forward.
Post # 8
This was the situation at the aunt’s wedding quite a few years ago. People decided stand up during the wedding ceremony, so that they could see better. I don’t see a problem to it, but you might want to keep in mind that some people might feel like standing because they don’t have a “good view” while sitting down.
Post # 9
I’ve never been to a wedding like this, but it seems like it makes the most sense, so I wouldn’t hesitate to do it if I were you.
Post # 10
This is what we’re doing. I’ve been to weddings like this and i saw absolutley no issue with it.
Post # 11
I don’t think it’s bizarre!
Post # 12
I’ve been to one, it wound up raining so it was the backup plan. I’m in the same situation, ceremony and reception in one room, but I don’t have staff to move chairs and there isn’t really a space outside, so we’ll be doing it that way. II’m planning on having the chairs perpendicular so no one is sitting with their back to us.
Post # 13
@lollygagon: i have only been to one wedding like this and it was a bit awkward for some guests. they didn’t have a good view of the ceremony so chairs were moved all over.
the one thing that i think you should think about is the pictures of you walking down the aisle. how do you want them to look? do you want to see tables and chairs askew or guests seated in a row?
is there any way that the cocktail hour could be in a different area and that’s when the staff can flip the room? that’s what my venue did.
Post # 14
@lollygagon: I voted ‘Yes, don’t do it.’ BUT I voted before I read what your alternative was. I have been at two weddings where we were seated at dinner tables for the ceremony and both seemed awkward. But it is probably just because I grew up going ot Catholic weddings and so I’m used to an entire mass and the whole shebang so it was not what I was used to. I’d say whatever makes for less stress for you on your day is the way you should go!
Post # 15
I was recently at a wedding like this. I didn’t like it because of the awkward positioning of the tables. It made it difficult to see what was going on.
Post # 16
@Diamond84: We are doing a cocktail hour after the ceremony, and it is in the same ballroom, so I feel like guests would be manuevering around moving chairs. There is no where outside of the ballroom for all of the guests to go.
The upside is that the bar will be open prior to the ceremony so guests could grab a drink and find their table, which may help avoid the massive bar rush after the ceremony.
@Taeyers: This is a concern of mine too for sure. I want people to fele like they are a part of the ceremony
@mypinkshoes: thank you for your input! If i end up doing this, i will try to find a way to make sure everyone has a good view and it doesn’t make for unnattractive photos