(Closed) Is it weird to have guests seated at tables during ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is it awkward to sit at tables during the ceremony?

    Yes, don't do it!

    It's not a big deal, go for it

    Wouldn't care either way

  • Post # 3
    402 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think we may do this because we are getting married in a campsite and will need seating for everyone when the super short ceremony is done. I haven’t been to a wedding like that, but I have heard other people say they have. 

    Post # 4
    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @lollygagon:  the last 2 weddings i went to were like this. everyone sat at the tables during the ceremony then stayed at the same tables for dinner afterwards. I liked it because it wasnt so much moving around. Fiance and I are planning to do the same…to me its too much of a hassle to have to drive somewhere else or having to move over 100 chairs


    Post # 5
    823 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    That was our backup plan in case of rain. Our ceremony was outside, but there wasn’t anywhere we could put a tent, so we would have just had it in the reception space. Thankfully we didn’t have to, but as a guest I would have no problem with it.

    Post # 6
    1470 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I personally wouldn’t be a fan of this and it’s not something I would do. However, if it will make your wedding day easier and less stressful to do this, then I think you should. 

    Question, are you having a cocktail hour in between? Could guests be outside of the room after the ceremony to allow time for staff to rearrange the chairs? 

    Post # 7
    1388 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My worry is that it might make guests feel detached from the ceremony if they’re seated all the way across the room and possibly angled with their back to you. It’s our venue’s backup plan in case of rain, and I really hope to avoid it. I’d like my guests to feel engaged and be able to watch while comfortably seated facing forward. 

    Post # 8
    91 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    This was the situation at the aunt’s wedding quite a few years ago. People decided stand up during the wedding ceremony, so that they could see better. I don’t see a problem to it, but you might want to keep in mind that some people might feel like standing because they don’t have a “good view” while sitting down.

    Post # 9
    2315 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ve never been to a wedding like this, but it seems like it makes the most sense, so I wouldn’t hesitate to do it if I were you. 

    Post # 10
    4079 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

    This is what we’re doing. I’ve been to weddings like this and i saw absolutley no issue with it.

    Post # 11
    8700 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t think it’s bizarre!

    Post # 12
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’ve been to one, it wound up raining so it was the backup plan. I’m in the same situation,  ceremony and reception in one room, but I don’t have staff to move chairs and there isn’t really a space outside,  so we’ll be doing it that way.  II’m planning on having the chairs perpendicular so no one is sitting with their back to us.

    Post # 13
    7960 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @lollygagon:  i have only been to one wedding like this and it was a bit awkward for some guests.  they didn’t have a good view of the ceremony so chairs were moved all over.

    the one thing that i think you should think about is the pictures of you walking down the aisle.  how do you want them to look?  do you want to see tables and chairs askew or guests seated in a row?

    is there any way that the cocktail hour could be in a different area and that’s when the staff can flip the room?  that’s what my venue did.

    Post # 14
    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @lollygagon:  I voted ‘Yes, don’t do it.’ BUT I voted before I read what your alternative was.  I have been at two weddings where we were seated at dinner tables for the ceremony and both seemed awkward.  But it is probably just because I grew up going ot Catholic weddings and so I’m used to an entire mass and the whole shebang so it was not what I was used to.  I’d say whatever makes for less stress for you on your day is the way you should go!

    Post # 15
    5978 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I was recently at a wedding like this. I didn’t like it because of the awkward positioning of the tables. It made it difficult to see what was going on.

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