Post # 1
One of the venues we’re particularly interested in, a state park, has a rustic but nice building in which one can hold the reception. The problem is, the room they recommend in the building for having dinners or meetings and such holds 50 people, and we will have at least 80. There is another large room in the building, but I don’t know if it can hold 80, either. I have to call up the state parks department and ask about this, but I would be interested to know exactly how rude it might be to end up having the reception dinner spilt between 2 rooms.
My instinct is that this would be terribly rude and awkward. But I’m curious whether anyone has done this and what people think about it– the venue is by far the cheapest and I think provides most everything we want/need from a venue, which is why I haven’t simply rejected it out of hand for the space issue.
Post # 3
Imagine being in the room where the bride and groom and family AREN’T sitting?
Post # 4
@MsJ2theZ: I know. That’s why I think it would be so rude!!
Post # 5
I don’t think I’d like that as a guest OR a bride. And then what do you do for announcements, cake cutting, toasts etc… have everyone that was in room number 2 come and stand in the back of room number 1? ick
Post # 6
I hate having to go a different room just for the bar or the food. I can’t even think of sitting in a separate room from the bride and groom. That’d be so awkward.
Post # 7
@Creiddylad: I think it would be super awkward both for the guests and yourself. Not worth it to me.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t like it as a guest, especially if I wasn’t seated in the room as the bride and groom. I’d keep looking for a venue.
Post # 9
My cousin did this and I did not like it at all. It was extremely disjointed and it was really awkward for toasts/dances/etc. Half the people in the non-main room tried to cram into the main room to watch everything, and the other half didn’t bother and just hung out in the other room all night. Not recommended.
Post # 10
I’ve been to a wedding where they had the whole floor of an old house. So some people were essentially sitting out of the room (although there were no doors or anything) and it was fine.
Post # 11
I went to a wedding like this before. However, it was in a very old home and there were large doorways between the different (small) dining rooms. it didn’t bother me. Possibly partially because part of being in an old home is the maze of little rooms. That’s part of the charm.
I would say that the “connectedness” of the rooms is a factor
Post # 12
For a seated dinner, I don’t think it works very well, unless they’re in a very open configuration, where you can see and hear the other room easily somehow. Ours was a stand-up, dance, drink, eat, mingle, type reception, with a band, and there was an outdooor patio that was separate, but worked because we opened the windows up, and you could see and hear what was going on all around. But, you were also free to move in and out as you pleased.
It really depends, in your situation, on how connected the two spaces would feel. If they’re acrss the hall from each other, and have big french doors you can open up, I think it would work just fine. But if they are separated by standard sized doors, and a hallway, I don’t think it would work at all.
Post # 13
For a traditional reception, it’s a no for me.
Post # 14
@Creiddylad: I’ve been to two weddings like this and I didn’t like either.
Two times I went to one where dinner was in 1 room and dancing was in another. It was kind of annoying and awkward though to go back and forth when you wanted to sit.
THe other time was some people were seated downstairs and others upstairs. Even though it was open and you could see down below if you stood up and walked to the edge, the people on the top all felt like second class citizens! I wasn’t a fan.
Post # 15
@Creiddylad: we faced this issue for our wedding, but it was not two rooms but two different floors… Mind you it was a tiny little mill that had been renovated into an event space. We kept our numbers down so we coukd fit everyone on one level. We thought it may comea crossa s rude when choosing who sits where… And also impossible, i woukd have wanted everyone in the same spot as me and my groom! Best luck to you!
Post # 16
@Creiddylad: I would omit any venue that didn’t have the capacity for all guests to eat dinner together. Splitting off other events like dancing or dessert is a different story. But for the dinner event they should all be together.