(Closed) Is it weird to suggest a Bachelorette party?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it weird of me to suggest a party?
    You're suggesting something low-key that's not a full-blown party. Go ahead! : (39 votes)
    93 %
    You don't have attendants, you don't get a party. : (2 votes)
    5 %
    If you're friends haven't suggested it, then don't. : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    1217 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think it’s fine to ask your friends to go out with you to celebrate! I did that, and I’m really excited to get to see them and just relax with them. Your request doesn’t sound very demanding – dinner and dancing – so I would go ahead and ask them!

    Post # 4
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    There’s still time for anyone to plan one without you knowing… I would wait a bit longer to see.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I definitely see no problem in asking them to go out for a night with you! 🙂  I think normally attendants plan those parties, so that’s probably why they didn’t mention it (b/c they weren’t sure).

    Maybe put it as you would like to have the girls over for a little shin-dig, then dinner and dancing before you tie the knot.

    Post # 6
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    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    There is nothing wrong with suggesting one! I say go for it and bring it up. However, I’d phrase it like you’re doing some/most of the planning, so they aren’t feeling like you’re asking them to do all the work for it. Your idea sounds perfect!

    Post # 7
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    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I had bridesmaids and they didn’t offer to throw me a shower, so I didn’t suggest one.  I’d never suggest one with girls who weren’t in the wedding party – but if you do, maybe not call it a bachelorette party?

    Post # 8
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t see anything wrong with that, I think the bride should be fully included in the bachelorette planning to begin with.

    Post # 9
    Member
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would! Maybe don’t call it a bachelorette party if that gives you pause. But it sounds like a plan that won’t make work or stress for the other women, and I bet they would be happy to help send you off into married life with a fun night of good food and dancing.

    Post # 10
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    11356 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t think it would be appropriate for you to ask your friends to host (i.e. pay for) a bachelorette event FOR you.  However, I think it is pefectly appropriate for you to say to your friends that you’d love to spend some time with them prior to the wedding and that you’d love to have them over to your house for dinner.  You could then make them dinner or order take out that you offer to pay for for everyone.

    However, before you do this, I agree with @happyface:  There is still time for one of them to suggest treating YOU to a special evening, so I would wait a bit longer.  Chances are, if no one makes a move, and you suggest an evening at your house, some of them may volunteer to treat you instead! 🙂

    Post # 11
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    1652 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    No it’s not weird! Personally I pretty much organised my own as my bridesmaids were not bothered.

    Post # 13
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    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’m glad your friends have something planned! 🙂

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