Is it weird to wear your wedding band before you get married?

posted 6 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

There are no rules, but I personally wouldn’t. Would you wear an engagement ring on your left ring finger if you were single? It’s not illegal, but it reads off to me. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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@Bride2Bee1:  I wore mine from time to time before I was married. I say go for it if you want to!

Post # 4
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Busy bee

i guess that depends on what it means to you. If the wedding band is this like, magical thing that signals to you and the world that you are married, and you don’t want anyone to make that assumption yet, then don’t wear it. If you’re okay with the odd stranger thinking you’re married because they see a band, then do wear it. If your partner is okay with it, do what makes you happy!

Honestly, who cares? If it makes you happy, wear it. The world sucks right now. Find joy somewhere. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Wear it if you like. It’s your jewelry, you can wear it whenever you want. If it’ll make you happy I say do it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

No, it’s not weird! A ring is just a piece of metal. I had a friend who loved her wedding ring so much she wore it on her right hand until her wedding day, when she switched it to her left. I have an engagement ring, but I don’t wear it on my left ring finger – I wear it on my middle finger because I like it there better. If someone takes issue with you wearing your wedding band before you sign a piece of paper, that’s their weird problem to deal with, not yours. Do what makes you happy! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s wierd.  I didn’t want to wear mine before the wedding (even though it was pretty and I had strong urges!) because I wanted to have a strong emotional “this is my wedding ring!” attachment to the ring. 

I did wear it around the house for an hour or two, to make sure the sizing was correct and to make sure it didn’t rub against my engagement ring in a way that would cause damage.

I’ll be honest, if we’d had to delay our wedding due to COVID, I probably would have decided to wear the ring anyway for the joy the bling brings.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Life is short…wear the ring

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@Bride2Bee1:  

l don’t see why not – though l do believe that engagement and particularly wedding rings are more than just a piece of metal and are highly charged with symbolism and sentiment. But wearing it before the ceremony doesn’t detract from that imho. In fact it is kind of nice to look at it and think ‘hmmm yes, you are going to be an actual wedding ring soon ‘ 

l agree with pps, a little bit of completely harmless joy. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

I agree with what the other posters have said. If it will bring you joy in these turbulent times, wear it!

For me, personally, like some of the others mentioned I want to save it up to be the physical representation of the actual legal moment we are married, as well as to have the association with that day, so I won’t wear mine more than a few minutes around the house until then, but if you have no such feelings about it then why not wear it? I do understand how you must feel – we would have booked our wedding much sooner if not for covid, so I do sometimes feel impatient, but the symbolism is important to me, so I spend time dreaming of how it will look when they’re together, and it’s a nice thing to look forward to on dull days. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

DH and I began wearing our rings the moment we got them. It made us happy. Do what you want. It’s not like you’re walking around in a wedding dress and veil before your wedding day.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it’s weird. I mean, it’s a wedding ring and so generally it isn’t worn until you are married. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I think a happy compromise would be wearing it at home only so you have more time to admire it or wearing it on your right hand when going out. But in the end do what makes you happy!

FWIW I have 2 wedding bands and one is an heirloom that I wore before I was married on my right hand. Once our ceremony was over I switched it over to stack with my custom wedding band.  Those two together have such sentimental meaning for me. 

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