(Closed) Is it wierd to have your mom as the maid of honor? Can I have your thoughts?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have seen it done alot of times at smaller intimate weddings.  I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it’s a really touching and sweet thing to do. Any old timers who have a problem with you honoring your friendship with your own mother like that can go suck a lemon. Go for it!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Okay, I am probably around the same age as your mom; probably older, and I don’t think that it would be weird at all. If you were my daughter and wanted me to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, I would be very honored. The only thing that I think might be strange would to have her walk you down the aisle and also be your Maid/Matron of Honor, but if you, your Fiance, and your mom are okay with that, then I say go ahead and do it. I think that the majority of your guests would really appreciate how much your mom means to you.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not latina but I think in high school we were taught that it is/was customary in Latin American countries. If I’m mistaken, please correct me, but gently :). Plus, I agree with the PPs that if she is your friend and the person you want up there with you (and she agrees to it) I think its great! 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@noritake22: I agree on the slight wierdness of having mom walk her down the aisle and then being her Maid/Matron of Honor.

I do not think it is strange at all to want your mother as Maid/Matron of Honor. I have seen grooms use their grandfathers as Best men so I say why not. It is a sweet way for you to honor her and the two of you are probably already knee deep in your planning so she will be just like a Maid/Matron of Honor anyways.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2005

Being that I am mommies little girl…I think it is an awesome idea!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve been to a lot of weddings, and all the ceremonies had quirks: dogs; my friend’s brother, who is special needs in his wheelchair, being pushed by the nanny; walking in to the beatles; sand/unity candle/wine etc.; dancing down the aisle; jump broom/break glass/dip the bride…

If you think about it, isn’t this just one of those personalizations?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The last time a post like this came up, I was kind of surprised by the responses (very similar to here), because I think most people in my circle of friends/family definitely would think having a mom Maid/Matron of Honor would be weird. I also think it kind of takes away from her other important duty of the day — her role as mother of the bride! Especially since yours is being given the honor of walking you down the aisle.

I just wanted to point out that you don’t need to have a Maid/Matron of Honor. I’m not! I just decided against promoting one maid above the rest so as not to have to make that distinction of who was more important to me.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it’s weird at all. I think it’s a great idea and would be really special for both of you.  Much more so than asking someone who you aren’t very close to do it. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you should have her walk you down and then stand as Maid/Matron of Honor.  It’s unconventional, for sure, but I think it would flow very naturally.

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