Post # 1
It’s 8 months till our wedding and my Fiance and I recently started talking about BC. He’s 31 and I’m 28 and we’re waiting till we’re married to have sex. The other night he asked me if I was going to start taking BC pills before the wedding. He said he wouldn’t mind if I didn’t want to take them and he’s leaving it up to me decide. I’m really torn about what to do because I was on BC pills in the past and the side effects sucked. Both times that I stopped taking BC pills it took ages to have a regular cycle again…plus I gained about 10-15 lbs.
We’re both ready to start a family soon (FI really wants a baby!) but I’d like us to experience married life with just the two of us for at least 4-6 months before thinking about ttc. However, I’m not sure it’s worth going on BC for such a short amount of time and messing with my cycle (which is like clockwork right now).
I guess we could just use condoms for now and hope for the best. Anyone else have any recommendations or anyone in a similar situation? I wish I didn’t have such a bad experience with BC pills in the past. I’m afraid that taking BC will cause me problems in the future when we actually TTC. Both of us have always wanted to have 3 to 4 kids and we know that we should probably get started pretty soon if we want to make that happen.
Post # 3
It might take you guys a while before you get pregnant, so you might not need them! But I’ve taken allese or marvelon (both the 28 pack). It takes at least a week, or 2 to be safe for them to kick in. The side effects for all pills vary, but the weight gain is usually water weight. If you take them, then go off of them it might mess your cycle up for a month or so. They wont mess up if you go off them then want to try for kids, my sister was on the pill for 6 years, then when she went off it to have babies, she got pregnant right away! All you can do it talk to your doctor, but i know they discourage going off and on them.
But best of luck to you!
Post # 4
@Ashley_B: That’s true, it could possibly take awhile for us to get pregnant anyhow.
One thing I didn’t mention is that our honeymoon isn’t happening until 4 months after the wedding which is another reason for us NOT to get pregnant right away. I don’t really want to be preggo on my honeymoon..hehe.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
@As_You_Wish: could you use another method of contraception until you’re ready then? Condoms? Withdrawl (although that may not work), or charting or something?
Chances are you won’t get pregnant in those few short 4 months, but you never know!
Post # 6
I’ll be charting for sure. I guess if we’re careful with charting and use condoms we’ll lessen our chances of getting pregnant too soon. I feel like I’m playing the baby lottery!
Post # 7
I dont think its worth starting BC for 4-6 months because your body takes a while to adjust to it and then it takes time for you to adjust once you stop taking it
Post # 8
@bells: This exactly.
The first 3 months of BC are an adjustment phase to begin with while your body gets used to it. Doctors usually recommend still using a backup method in this case anyway during the first few months, so it might not make much sense for you if you plan on getting off them soon, especially if they mess with your cycle badly after getting off.
Post # 9
I’ll be honest – I don’t think I would mess with BCPs for that short of a time frame. If you are only looking for protection for 4-6 months before TTC, I’d just go with charting and/or condoms or something. They won’t be quite as effectve but I’d think they’d be sufficient for such a short period of time.
Post # 10
The pill crushes my libido beyond belief so personally, I’d find something else for my first few months of marriage! If you start charting now, you should be pretty good at it when the time comes to rely on it. Good luck!
Post # 11
If its only for a few months I would go with condoms
Post # 12
Don’t mess with perfection, especially if you would like to concieve in the future!
Use condoms properly and you should be fine!
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s worth the side effects. If I could get away with not taking BC, I would not take it. Especially since you want to start TTC soon, using condoms for a few months is fine.
Post # 14
If I were you, I wouldn’t bother with pills for only 4-6 months.
Post # 15
Have you considered something like the Fertility Awareness Method or NFP? Since you’re still 8 months out from your wedding, and only want to postpone pregnancy for a few months, it would definitely be worth learning about your cycle, and 8 months gives you plenty of time. You should read Taking Charge of Your Fertility if you haven’t already! You will learn soooo much about your body and when exactly you can and can’t get pregnant… no chemicals, hormones, or barriers (for at least most of the month, if you choose to go that route.)
Post # 16
@red_rose: Thanks, I will look for information on both of those options. I’d also be very interested to read “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”. I’m glad that I have a few months to figure this stuff out before the wedding!