(Closed) is it worth it to be the bigger person? family and invite issues.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: who would you invite?
    be the bigger person, invite everyone. : (6 votes)
    33 %
    invite only those who you feel close to. forget what the uninvited may think. : (11 votes)
    61 %
    invite none. its bad form to pick and choose : (1 votes)
    6 %
    other, explain please : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    4771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    What does your dad think? its his fam and if hes paying (donno) than he has a say. If youre paying and or your dad dosent care than invite who you want there.

    Post # 4
    Member
    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    How many people are in you Fiance family??  How many friends??  Do you think all of these people (dad’s side) will RSVP yes??

    Post # 5
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    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think you should only invite people you want there to celebrate with you. If it were one or two people, that might be one thing, but you seem to be talking about a lot of people with whom you feel excluded and uncomfortable. I am generally of the opinion that no one is entitled to come to your wedding. They are your guests. In this situation, maybe it is appropriate to invite your mom’s side and not your dad’s. I don’t think excluding them makes you “worse” or brings you down to their level, I think it would give you a day with happiness and without the worry of being openly judged.

    Perhaps the best way to decide is to think about how they will behave if invited and consider how their presence will affect you and your fiance on the day of the wedding. So sorry you are going through this. Follow your heart and you’ll be okay! Good luck.

    Post # 6
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    5762 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’m not so sure you will be the bigger person(and what does that really mean,anyway?) by inviting all of them, as nothing can change the past and how they made you all feel. This one event isn’t going to erase it all, and probably will do nothing to make you closer to them. Doing the ‘right’ or expected thing isn’t necessarily the best thing.

    Considering what you’ve written, there’s no way I’d invite your Dad’s side.

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