- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I really don’t want one of my fiance’s friends at our wedding. If he came, it would be +4 to our already tight guest list, since we would also invite his wife and 2 kids (who we like, but are not close to, but they would probably keep him in line).
He has never particularly liked me, or rather, he has never been particularly respectful to any women. He was my husband’s best friend in high school, and my future in laws love him since they haven’t seen him since high school. His behavior was sometime annoying as a 17 year old, but has only gotten worse as he gets older.
In the last 5 or so years since the end of college, he hasn’t made any plans with my fiance that don’t involve asking my fiance for something. For example, we don’t get invited to game night at his house, but my fiance is the first person called when he needs to borrow someone truck (read: spend a thankless day packing and moving).
He’s also very racist and always talking about welfare queens and implied he could never do a job only fit for minorities, while he has been out of work and not looking for years. What’s really tipped me over to disgust most recently is a “funny” story his wife told me about how he spent all of his children’s food stamp money on a scheme to buy video games.
I’ve already talked my fiance out of having him as a groomsman (would have made sense if we were 18, but they just aren’t that close) but I’m just so digusted by him that I don’t want him at our wedding, and would prefer to have literally anyone else take up those spots (we are already heavily pruning our guest list to fit our venue). He would almost certainly come if invited, since we’re having an open bar and all.
I think my fiance still sees his 16 year old best friend and also doesn’t always feel like he has enough friends, but I don’t think it’s worth it to attempt to continue to be friends with such a loser. Should I try to cut him from the guest list, or leave it be? We haven’t sent save the dates out yet.