(Closed) Is it worth splurging on lingerie?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 16
1353 posts
Bumble bee

I might get one white outfit just for fun (FI doesn’t care) but otherwise I’ll be using my “good” lingerie on the honeymoon (which, yes, mostly just sits in the back of my drawer and only comes out on special occasions).

I’ve found that bra/panty combos are not worth spending lots of money on. If you’re at the stage where you’re undressing, those undergarments aren’t going to stay on for very long. At least, that’s how it is for us. For the wedding night and honeymoon I’d prefer to buy alluring slips that I can wear in the morning or while we’re having a drink before bed.

My Fiance does not care for lingerie either. He doesn’t get why I spend money on it. The truth is, it makes me feel sexy, which benefits both of us.

Post # 17
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I like lingerie and think its worth splurging on. Does your Fiance like it? My husband loves it so its an easy decision to buy stuff.

Post # 18
903 posts
Busy bee

I say it is worth it. Right when I got engaged I bought lingerie and underwear, because then I was still looking at wedding planners and I wasn’t going to do a thing about my wedding until I got my planner, but I still had that wedding planning itch and buy lingerie was the only thing I could do without a planner.

I bought three sets of lingerie gowns and three sets of underwear. I told my Fiance this, and he compared my body to a cake and lingerie to icing, he said that the cake is good enough without the icing… then followed it up with, “I’m not really saying that you’re a cake, I know you’re a person with a personality and dreams like any person” (he was raised with a super feminist mother, which I’m glad for. Though I thought the follow up was funny, I knew I wasn’t a cake lol). I followed him up with, that’s sweet but a little icing never hurt anyone.

I described what I bought in a teasing way, he now looks forward to seeing what I’ve bought. To me, the splurg is worth it. I just buy alluring lingerie slips and gowns, silky and satiny and fun to touch. That way it’s a treat for the eyes and the touch, also it’s comfortable enough for me to sleep in. I don’t mess with lingerie bras, I will buy lingerie panties though. They are my “good” panties though, and I’ll only put them on if I plan on doing something in them.

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Post # 19
9588 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

IMO… yes.  On two conditions.

1. It makes you feel sexy.  This is the most important–lingerie is mostly for you, IMO.  If you don’t feel like a million bucks in it, don’t get it.

2. It turns him on.  Can you put a price on that?  Plus, this feeds back up into #1.. if you know you’re fulfilling one of his desires, you’ll feel more sexy & confident. 

All that said, I still shop from adoreme.com more than victoria’s secret… they’re way cheaper and its not like you use this stuff over and over.

Post # 20
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My fiance and I love lingerie. I already have a wide selection so I will be looking for some extra special stuff for our wedding and honeymoon. I agree with PP though it is only worth it if it is something that interest yourself and Fiance. If you feel sexy and beautiful in it then it is worth it. 

Post # 21
7421 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How does your Fiance feel any lingerie? My husband doesn’t really care about it so the two outfits I bought have been sitting in a drawer for two years so I’m glad I didn’t buy anymore.

Post # 22
14947 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think it’s worth splurging on as in buying expensive items unless they’re actually super special and some sort of amazing.  I’d buy a few pieces though, but everything of mine is < $20 and looks (and accomplishes) the same as items 2-3x the cost.  $30 is a splurge for me.

Post # 23
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I got engaged in April and we’re having a long engagment (almost 2 years). I never wore lingerie before, but I have a boudoir shoot in one month and decided to look at lingerie options. Given I tried on Agent Provocatuer lingerie… It made me feel like a million bucks!!! But probably because it cost an arm and a leg…..

I occassionally splurge on things I don’t need to, so for me the lingerie was just one of those splurges and I think it was totally worth it! I will definitely get a set or two for the honeymoon ๐Ÿ™‚ And to emphasize what another bee said… the lingerie is totally a purchase FOR YOU! I showed my fiance a few options and he seemed intriged (he’s never shown any interest or had any issues with me not wearing lingerie before), but really – the selling point of it was how it made me feel (sexy and confident!)

Post # 24
1179 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

littlebee94:  Really depends on you and your guy. My Darling Husband “likes” it, but also says he doesn’t always see the point when he ends up taking it off so quickly. I knew my girls were planning a lingerie shower for the bachelorette party and asked him if it was necessary due to previous comments… he said “ummm yes!” I keep it kind of practical though.. Most of mine are sheer/silk slips I’ll wear to sleep after and a few fancy bras/panties I can wear underneath something for a special night. 

I use it more of a “hey this is about to happen” thing. Like put it on and wait in bed as I call him to the room or something. 

Post # 25
9528 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Fredricks of Hollywood is going out of business, they closed their retaiL stores but are still online. You can get some great deals while they last

Post # 26
2331 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

littlebee94:  Darling Husband isn’t really into it to be honest. 

I bought a cute little ivory number for the honeymoon and he saw it when I unpacked, and saw it again when I packed it all up again. We forgot all about it. 

Post # 27
1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

littlebee94:  I have a very large lingerie collection that came out quite a bit when Fiance and I were dating but not living together. After we started living together, I noticed that his reaction to raciest lingerie was nothin compared to when I wore a silky slip to bed or a crazy soft cotten chemise thing. He just wanted something that felt good to rub up on.


Now I spend a lot less money on lingerie and lots more on super soft nighties and chemises which is great because he loves them and they are soooo comfortable! All dudes are different, but in my experience, lingerie isn’t the greatest investment.

Post # 28
2348 posts
Buzzing bee

littlebee94:  I love lingerie but I rarely buy really expensive stuff. If you have a rocking bod you can spend $20 on lingerie and your man will be super happy ๐Ÿ™‚ I have heard that some guys just aren’t into lingerie but my husband loves it. I recommend Fredrick’s of hollywood. 

Post # 29
2348 posts
Buzzing bee

theatrejulia:  WHAT. Nooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ๐Ÿ™ ๐Ÿ™ ๐Ÿ™

Post # 30
1837 posts
Buzzing bee

I remember my older sister telling me years ago that it was something you threw across the foot of the bed in case there was a fire.  (we were discussing wedding nights – she was probably late 20’s and I was 13 or 14)

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