Post # 1
Hello Bees, I am new to the site and am having a difficult time on making decisions about major things. We are not getting married until 2013 most likely because I am currently in nursing school at SFSU and will graduate in Dec. 2012. I am infatuated with everything weddings, but I don’t know if I want a big wedding, a small wedding or where to get married. We have talked about Disneyland, Vegas, or a big low key party at a friends ranch. I have also contemplated just going to city hall in The city (San Francisco) because it is a gorgeous building. I am torn though on what I want to spend on a wedding. Weddings in the bay area average 20-30k. Is it really worth it for one day? We already own a house in San Mateo for those of you who may say use it for a house. It just seems like a ton of money for one day….
Post # 3
We spent more money that originally budgeted (like most brides) and I am probably in the minority who think that it is NOT worth it for one day. If I could redo it, I would go back and try to save where I could. As much effort and money as we put into it, we didn’t notice a lot of the details the day of and could have gotten by with cutting corners and had more money to show for it after the fact. I am not a person who likes to see our savings account or checking account take the hit. For me, the day was more about love and having a good time with our guests.
What was worth it: DJ, Dancefloor, Cupcakes, Food although I would have ordered less since we had no-shows and we ordered extra to begin with, Flip Flop basket (we had our reception in our backyard), Photographer, hand fans since it was a warm day
What I would have save on: Ceremony site (gorgeous especially for the pictures but not worth the money for a 10-20 minute ceremony), Bathroom baskets (no one used it), my wardrobe, transportation.
For what its worth, my best friend eloped to Hawaii and had a low key blowout party afterwards at a friend’s lake. She still wore a wedding dress but they saved tons of money and it was VERY low stress for her. I am super jealous. If I could redo it, thats what I would do.
Post # 4
I don’t think it is worth it. What I mean to say is- I don’t think you need to spend 20K-30K on one day. It isn’t one day- it isn’t about that to me. There are so many creative things you can do to avoid spending that much. It is really about your marriage, not the wedding- so to me, spending a lot on the wedding isn’t worth it. I think the low key idea sounds perfect. Just do what is right for you. 😉
Post # 5
Congrats on getting engaged! And welcome to the Bee!
First thing to do is set a realistic budget. Find out if anyone (parents, grandparents) is able or willing to contribute to weddings costs. Yeah, I know that is an icky conversation, but necessary before moving on and making plans. Figure out what is most important, to least important to you and your fiance. Is their something really special in your relationship, that you want to incorporate into the ceremony or reception? For example, my Fiance and I absolutely love board games. We have a part of our reception space, away from the dance floor, set up for people who want to play board games. When you close your eyes and you visualize your wedding, what do you see? Lot’s of flowers? Big fluffy wedding dress? A limo carrying you away? Are you in a church or outdoors? Follow your vision. Look through weddingbee, look at the Gallery and DIY areas and start saving idea pics to a folder, when you see things that appeal to you. You’ll be surprised at how the vision will start to gel after a while.
Post # 6
Fiance and I have differing opinions on this. I have a lot of trouble spending all of that money on one day, but he sees it as the only chance we’ll have (my grandmothers are all getting really old, and our families live all around the world) to host a really great party with/for all the people we love and care about. Yes, we’re getting married (and if weddings were JUST about tying the knot, I don’t think it would be worth it–I’d just as soon go to the JOP), but seeing it as a big party for all of our friends makes the money pill a lot easier to swallow. Also takes the pressure off of having to have a perfect day!