Post # 1
Hi Waiting Bee’s –
While having a discussion with my SO, I asked what was the top of the budget for rings? The only reason I asked is because I didn’t want to send him anything that was outside of what he could afford. He told me he was saving for $2500. At that time, I was just so happy to hear he was saving I didn’t care what is was. Now that I am realizing he can’t really afford what I’d like I am feeling sad but I also feel a bit selflish because I know it shouldn’t matter. Maybe I wouldn’t feel this way if I didn’t know he makes 2,000 per pay check :/
Am I crazy? Or is this a reasonable feeling to have?
Post # 3
Depending on where you live, a $2,000 paycheck may not go very far, even getting paid twice a month. If he has any debts to pay, that money goes out pretty quickly.
I suppose it’s a reasonable feeling to have, but try to remember what the ring is a symbol of!
Post # 4
$2500.00 is a really nice budget actually, and don’t forget the “guideline” of three months salary is just a marketing ploy.
Why don’t you post pics for us here of what your dream ring looks like? I bet we can find you something very similar for $2500 or less!
Post # 5
Oh man. YOu shouldn’t have asked that! When I sent rings to my DH, I just sent what I was interested without asking about price. That way he got the picture about what it would cost him without explicitly telling him.
Post # 6
Who cares? If he proposes, he proposes. This is why I think women shouldn’t pick out rings and have specific types in mind…they’re just bound to be disappointed and lose focus on what’s important.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
@MissNoodles: Heck Yeah! +1. Man, I could do ANYTHING with that budget!
Post # 9
I am sorry but I am going to be honest. I think that you should be happy that he is even saving money and wants to marry you. I always told my DH that I would be happy with a cracker jack box ring because I know the meaning behind it is pricelss.
Post # 10
@peachacid: This is actually why we picked out my ring together. I didn’t wanting him spending too much money when I knew how to get a good deal and find something I like for less money.
Post # 11
Have you looked into non-diamond alternatives? Cheaper and you can get what size you want:)
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club
Depending on where you buy your ring, there may be a “trade in” offer for later on. We are having an almost 2 year engagement. When we got engaged on New Years, he bought what he could, which ended up being around 600. We just traded it in for a ring that normally costs 2,300 which was marked down to 1,600 so we now owe them 1,000. It worked out really well for us. I got my dream ring!
Post # 13
@peachacid: Exactly, I didnt pick my ring out or even know what he got. It was all a surprise to me and that makes this ring so much more special to me.
Post # 14
Understandable, maybe, but reasonable? Nope, sorry.
Don’t worry about how much he’s spending and DON’T worry about the percentage he’s spending on you relative to paycheck. That never leads anywhere good.
And not to be flip but, but if you really want a certain ring…why don’t you get it yourself?
Post # 15
I’d be happy with a 1000$ I don’t want my SO to spend 2500 + I’d rather use the money for a wedding etc… and mine makes 2500+ per pay cheque twice a month. Although he told me he will spend whatever he wants on a ring and I am pretty sure it will be well over $2000.
I guess I think this way because we live together and I find our home etc… more important. I just want a small symbol of his love and commitment 🙂
I think 2500 is very reasonable.
Post # 16
Thanks for all your answers! I had a feeling I was crazy! We live together and split all the bills 50/50 so I know what his expenses are and he has no credit card or school debt.
Trust me if I didn’t give any guidance he would just tell his mother to pick it out, and she would have just picked something she likes.
My “dream” is a princess cut diamond with a halo setting with eternity diamonds around the band. I am more into cut than carot (which i’m finding is expensive!) but I havn’t found a ring I like under 2,500 🙁 I LOVE finding a deal and have been looking heavily into used rings, but still no luck finding this ring 🙁
Everyone says that when it happens I won’t care, so I’m hoping that’s the case!