(Closed) Is it wrong that I don't want a diamond on my wedding ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

 

Whatever stone you end up choosing, make sure you do your research and just ensure that it’s practical to withstand your day-to-day activities/life. Firstly, ensure your ideal stone scores high on the Mohs Scale of Hardness. When you choose your ring be sure to talk to the gemologist and get educated on what you are buying.

I did not want a diamond either. My Fiance told me to choose whatever I wanted. I desperately wanted an emerald, because that deep rich green is my favourite colour, but emeralds only have an 8 on the Mohs Scale of Hardness making it impractical for everyday wear. Although the emerald is harder than quartz or tourmaline and can resists most scratching and wear…. The reality is that small microscopic fissures are common to emeralds due to their crystal nature/ mining methods making them less able to take being bumped or dropped. Diamonds score a 10 and the jump from 8 to 10 is a HUGE difference because the Mohs Scale is exponential. So, instead I chose a gorgeous 3 carat yellow sapphire solitaire set in platinum & diamond eternity band and I LOVE it! I don’t regret not getting a diamond and I’m finding a lot of people I know are option for gemstones in lieu of diamonds. My sister got a 2.5ct emerald-cut pink ruby in a platinum halo diamond setting. Fair warning though, gemstones can be just as expensive as diamonds Money MouthEmbarassed

Post # 48
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@TG123:  That’s super pretty!

Post # 49
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1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Not at all!  There are some beautiful none diamond rings out there!

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ss1gina:  Why would it be a big deal? lol There are so many options out there now and lots of people pass on the diamonds. Absolutely get whatever you like… you’re the one who will be wearing it!

Post # 51
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@beekeeper:  Thank you!

Post # 52
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

 There will always be judgy, opinionated people who will tell you that only a certain kind of stone or ring style is the “right” way to do things. But your engagement and wedding is about YOU and your fiance. Wear what you love!

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Duncan:  I need to know this story. How the heck did she end up describing the ring 19 seconds after you met? Please explain 🙂 Oh and gorgeous ring btw!

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mylittleviolett:  Some time during the first week we knew each other, it came up.  She believes diamond prices are inflated, and feels that women are engineered, from a young age, by the jewelery industry, to want a diamond engagement ring, and that this allows them to charge more for a stone that has few advantages over its coloured counterparts, and the disadvantage (to her taste) of having no colour to contribute to the setting.  She also thinks coloured stones are prettier, and loves Victorian things of all shapes, sizes, and favours.  Given all that info, it was actually remarkably simple to commission te exact ring she has always envisioned, while still being able to completely surprise her with it.

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Duncan:  Sounds like my kind of girl. I felt the same exact way which is why my husband got me a violet sapphire instead of a diamond. That is wonderful that you were able to remember all of that and put it all together to design a ring for her. 

Post # 56
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ss1gina:  diamonds are stunning but not for everyone. Get what you love!!!

Post # 57
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Not at all! A lot of my favorite erings on the Bee are not diamonds. Colored stones have so much character! 

Post # 59
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

@ss1gina:  Go for it and rock it!

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

@ss1gina:  of course its not wrong. My Fiance told me he wanted me to have something that I would be happy wearing years/decades from now. Diamonds and big gems arent my thing….. so you get what will get you happy decades from now 🙂

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