(Closed) Is it wrong that my bf took me to go pick out the ring??

posted 10 years ago in Rings
  • poll:

    yes, it should be a surprise

    no thats the way we did it

    doesn't make a difference

  • Post # 3
    1842 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We went ring shopping on several occasions and I showed him different styles I liked.  Ultimately, he made the final decision and picked the one he liked best, but I definitely gave him my input.

    Post # 4
    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I went with ring shopping, and was very happy I did.  I had no idea what looked good on my hand, what shape I wanted etc.  I ended up with something I would have NEVER picked out just looking at photos.  He chose the center stone and I picked out the setting… the actual engagement itself came months later and was still a surprise.  Good luck!

    Post # 5
    5385 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We went ring shopping. I picked rings that I liked from different stores. The final decision was up to him even though the rings were all different variations of the same thing.

    Post # 6
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My Fiance and I went ring shopping together. He wanted to be sure to get something that I liked, and it’s difficult to find that out without trying some rings on. We did some research online, picked out a few styles together that we liked, and then tried them on. We found one that we both loved, and my Fiance ended up buying a slightly bigger diamond that was the same style/setting. I couldn’t be happier, and it didn’t ruin the surprise at all! We went shopping over two months before he proposed, so I had no idea when it was coming and was on pins and needles for quite some time!

    Post # 7
    7766 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Um, I would rather know that he knows what I want to wear for the rest of my life on my finger.

    Post # 8
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I picked mine, and am happy I did. I’m not sure he would even know what to get if I didn’t pick it (or if I’d even like it). I also picked my upgraded ring (with wedding band).

    Post # 10
    9024 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I dont think it matters what your friends think. There is no RIGHT way to do it. Different things work for different couples.

    Post # 11
    1679 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    This is a huge purchase.  I wanted to be involved.


    I fell in love with a particular setting (halo, but not so high that it gets caught on things).  While my Fiance was looking at some other cases, I told our jeweler that my Fiance could put whatever he wanted in the middle as long as he used that setting.  She scribbled some notes in her little notebook where she tracks her couples and winked.  I love that jeweler.  🙂 

    Post # 12
    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @trendytay: We did the same thing! I picked the setting and he’s picking out the center on his own.

    I think picking the ring out together gives it a different sort of sentimental value. If he picks it himself, it’s sentimental because he spent time on his own picking the perfect gift for you. If you pick it together, at least in our case, it’s going to be a memory of making a pretty big decision together, I guess!

    Post # 14
    59 posts
    Worker bee

    WTH!  They should not be giving you grief – I mean what is so shocking or non-romantic about your BF thinking about what YOU want and including you?!  I think it’s really romantic/sweet, actually.  

    I find that people (SOME people, SOME friends) act weird around this time (ie. engagement/wedding etc).  They make funny comments, or little jabs which leave a bee wondering why they can’t just be over the moon for you and leave it at that.  

    My bf included me in the ring process.  It’s not that he wouldn’t have done a great job on his own, but his reasoning was that he wanted me to have something that I LOVED, not something that HE thinks I would love etc. 


    Post # 15
    5117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @InLove0704: Pssh, girl, your friends are jeeeaaalous! Wink You know that your proposal is coming sometime and that you’ll be getting something that fits your style well!

    My ring is a family ring. I knew that my grandma had inherited it, and passed it on to Mr.ND. But when it was time for the big proposal, I was shocked! And speechless! Knowing what ring I was getting had no affect on how amazing that day was. You will still be just as surprised and excited, your friends are just silly.

    Post # 16
    1490 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @InLove0704: lots of people go ring shopping. I knew what I wanted and gave my husband a description on a piece of paper when the talk became serious. He went above and beyond on my desired ring style.

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