(Closed) Is it wrong that my bf took me to go pick out the ring??

posted 9 years ago in Rings
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    yes, it should be a surprise

    no thats the way we did it

    doesn't make a difference

  • Post # 45
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I showed him a couple of pictures of the designs that I like.  He took them to our jeweler and have him custom made one based on the styles in the picture.

    Post # 47
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @InLove0704: I completely agree with you. We ring shopped and he wound up getting something very different after all but I entrusted him with doing that if it came to it. I love my ring! I was plenty surprised when he actually proposed. Don’t worry, it won’t take away a thing from actual moment for you. 🙂 Hang in there!

    Post # 48
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @InLove0704: Thanks 🙂 I was pleasantly surprised. We couldn’t have gotten something like this on our budgets, but the family meaning is what’s the best. Mr.ND actually inherited his grandpa’s band, so we’ll both have family rings!

    Post # 49
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I chose my setting and Kingy chose the diamond. I think its fine, you want to have something that you love, right?

    Post # 52
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I custom designed my e-ring with the jeweler. It has family diamonds (the center stone is fourth generation all the way from Portugal and the side stones are from my mom’s wedding band) in it and I wanted to pick out my own setting. I took my mom’s ring (combo of e-ring, wedding, and anniversary band) to the jeweler who had made hers and had him rip it apart and design something totally for me. FH had asked dad for permission to marry me at which point dad gave him the ring, but instructed him to take me to the jeweler and design something for myself. My mom had gotten a new ring for her 20th anniversary a few months before, so it worked out perfect.

    Post # 53
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    Blushing bee

    I picked out my ring, but it’s not what my partner had initially planned. I’d seen an antique sapphire and diamond ring when we were out together and fell in love with it. She went back the next day to get it and it was gone. We had plans for that coming weekend to go to Mendocino for a little vacation. Her plan had been to go get the antique ring and take me for a walk on the beach and hide the ring under a shell and then propose on the beach at sunset. Her plans fell apart when the ring was purchased by someone else and she couldn’t find anything like it. Also, we ended up cancelling that trip because her elderly father was admitted to the hospital with kidney failure and he wasn’t expected to live, he did By The Way. Since all her plans went to hell she took me out to a jewler and let me pick out my own ring. It was actually a nice experiance and I got the ring of my dreams. The whole store applauded for us when I picked my ring.

    Post # 54
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Mine was a complete surprise (ring and all) and I would not want it any other way. Honestly, I love my ring more because HE chose it all by himself. I do see the advantages of getting to choose, but I think I’d just be second guessing myself if that were my case.

    That being said, I have several friends who were involved in choosing the ring when getting engaged, and they were all very happy about it & with thier choices. I think it depends on what’s important to each couple & you should ignore your friends! Enjoy ring shopping & don’t let anyone ruin that for youLaughing

    Post # 55
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I had to pick my own, I wanted something extremely specific and hard to find, and literally emailed every gemstone vendor in the world for a year before I chose my sapphire. Then I had to find the perfect setting and that took even longer.

    Picky, picky, picky.

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I definitely see no problem with it! I picked out my diamond and band. I am very picky and he knew this. I don’t feel like my ring is any less special because I had a hand in picking it out. 

    Post # 57
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I picked my own ring and then told him where it was. It was up to him to get that one or not.

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    we went looking for mine and I picked out a few I really liked and strongly hinted more towards one. Smart guy got the hint! I don’t think it made things any less romantic .. in fact a lot of people go “ring shopping” around here

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