Post # 1
I want to ask my guest(not my imidiate family ) to wear black for my wedding,
Its for picture purposes only really, and i dont want anyone to come in our wedding colors.
Please explain why below your answer, i need you wedding Bee!
Post # 3
Typically, in my area anyway, it’s usually overstepping a bit to tell other adults how to dress. The exception of course being the wedding party, since you dictate their ‘uniform’.
Also, what if people show up in various shades of black?
Post # 4
It’s generally considered rude to tell grown guests what they can and cannot wear.
If I was told I had to wear a particular style/color/whatever, I probably wouldn’t go out of spite.
Post # 5
You should trust your guests to dress themselves.
It’s inconsiderate and presumptuous to micromanage their clothing choices. You’re kind of treating them like extras in a performance, who have to wear a costume to participate. (Besides which, black is traditionally more appropriate for a funeral than a wedding.)
That whole “it’s your day” mentality doesn’t justify this; as a hostess, you have a responsibility to show your guests a good time. Part of that is the courtesy of letting them choose their own clothes and colors.
Post # 6
I think it’s a pretty ridiculous and controlling thing to ask people to wear black just for pictures. Your pictures will be awesome regardless. If you care so much, convert the pictures to black and white.
Even Kim Kardashian looked crazy for asking that of guests.
Post # 7
people have all white weddings all the time. It is your wedding so i feel you can set rules if youd like but prepare yourself for the peopel who wear whatever they want despite your request, and for peopel to not come at all.
Post # 8
I don’t think it is rude or controlling. It’s a theme! There are parties “all white” “costume only” “black tie” etc all over the world for all sorts of occasions. Besides, everybody has something black, it’s not like you’re saying “not red, not black, not white, not blue, not plaid, and not gray”.
I say go ahead and do it. It’s simple, really.
“Dress code: black!”
Anybody offended by this needs something more important to worry about 🙂
All black parties are totally a thing.
Post # 9
I agree with jigga143 some may be offended, but at the end of the day it is your wedding!
Post # 10
Thank you so much guys im going to do it, im not trying to be controlling i just want a theme kinda. I think it will be nice to have a all black dress code 🙂
Post # 11
@jigga143: All white weddings are not common in my area at all. I’ve never heard of one (except maybe celebrities?), and definitely not “all the time.” Where are you from?
OP, no, I would not ask everyone to wear black.
Post # 12
You can ask … I’m not sure how many will do it. I don’t think it’s rude unless ontop of a gift they need to buy an outfit for your wedding.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema
@bebero: “Everybody has something black”
Post # 14
@MissBettsy: Same. I have a little black dress but it is not wedding appropriate in the slightest.
Post # 15
Unfortunately, you cannot dictate what grown adults wear. Many people would find it rude and controlling. It can give the impression that they are just props to make your wedding look nice. It’s one thing to have a Halloween party and invite guests to dress up, it’s another to ask them to wear a specific color because you want pictures to look a certain way. You can spread via word of mouth that you think it would be fun if everyone wore black, but you cannot require it. Plus you don’t want to pressure guests into buying a new outfit.
Also, what happens if not everyone wears black? I think your pictures would look strange if 75% of people were in black and the rest weren’t.
Post # 16
It is not uncommon at all for people to have all white weddings. Not just in Michigan (to answer your “where are you from” question) but in many other places. Having a themed wedding is also very common. People ask their guest to dress in formal attire, beach attire, casual, costume, and I recently went to a Disney themed wedding. Themed weddings are becoming more common as people decided to steer away from the traditional idea of what a wedding is supposed to look like.