Post # 1
At the reception we are only providing soda, beer and wine. I was thinking that if people asked about liquor we could tell them we are not offering it but if they wanted to bring their own we would be okay with that. Does that sound tacky? Its not like we are telling people to BYOB but if they don’t like the options I don’t want them to not have a good time.
Post # 3
I voted other because, while I don’t find it tacky, I think it may be in violation of some liquor laws. Where is your reception?
Post # 4
@Omgbunnies: my thoughts exactly
Post # 5
@RubyLeprechaun: you’re not putting byob on your invites and I think you’re being accommodating to your guests to let them bring liquor. I say it’s ok. Just make sure this is ok with your venue.
Post # 6
I think if thats what you feel comfortable with then go for it! We all want our guests to feel appreciated and happy but in the end… its about two people getting married and starting life together… not about someone being disappointed that they couldn’t have a rum and coke.
We are doing our drinks much like you, but because our wedding is small (36 guests) we will have a few bottles of hard alcohol and a selection of coolers as well. I believe that since we are footing the bill for all the alcohol consumed we should be able to make the call on whats available to drink.
Post # 7
@RubyLeprechaun: where are you having your reception? you may want to be careful with the liquor laws or permits. the last thing you want is the police to shut down your wedding and give you a fine.
Post # 8
I think beer/wine/soda is fine! I’m just flashing to horrible images of people wandering around swigging from bottles of Jack!
Post # 9
@BrandNewBride: lol I was sort of seeing something like that too
Post # 10
I believe that as a host, it is your obligation to properly host your guests, which means providing adequate food and beverage for your guests. I think it’s inappropriate to suggest or imply that your guests should provide their own alcohol, and I would find it off-putting.
Post # 11
Beer and wine should be plenty! If you are using a venue, you will almost definitely not be allowed to let people bring in their own liquor. Stick to your beer/wine/soda plan.
Post # 12
@RubyLeprechaun: I think your guests should drink whatever you provide. I like drinking wine but if that isn’t an option at a reception, I’ll just drink it some other time. No biggie.
Post # 13
I also voted other because of liquor laws.
Otherwise, I don’t think it’s tacky, but I wouldn’t do it. Beer and wine is plenty.
Post # 14
Tacky may not be the correct word…
But the idea certainly sounds a bit unusual…
And very much dependent on WHERE you are having your Reception (as the others have said).
For the record whatever you choose to provide is fine… (be it a Wet or Dry Reception)
So, having Beer, Wine & Soda are quite adequate.
Trying to find a way to tell folks to bring along their own liquor does seem weird to me (say what you want, BUT you are asking them to BYOB)
And suggesting someone BYOB to a Wedding sounds strange to me… (image here of person all dressed up porting along a brown paper bag… or if this is a “covert” operation in a licensed venue such as a Restaurant, Club, Reception Hall … in that you’d be going against the Liqour License / Permits… then what a flask ??)
The ONLY occasion when I could see this happening would be if it was a very very casual Wedding… such as a Back Yard BBQ / Wedding at the Cottage etc… and folks thought they’d bring along some “booze” on their own accord to help out with the Celebration
Hope this helps,
Post # 15
Thank you everyone! Yeah this is pretty much what my family said too.