(Closed) Is it wrong to do this?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is it tacky to allow guests to bring own Liquor
    What?! Are you crazy? : (30 votes)
    55 %
    Sure! Why not? : (18 votes)
    33 %
    Other : (7 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I voted other because, while I don’t find it tacky, I think it may be in violation of some liquor laws. Where is your reception?

    Post # 5
    709 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @RubyLeprechaun:  you’re not putting byob on your invites and I think you’re being accommodating to your guests to let them bring liquor. I say it’s ok. Just make sure this is ok with your venue.

    Post # 6
    9 posts
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think if thats what you feel comfortable with then go for it! We all want our guests to feel appreciated and happy but in the end… its about two people getting married and starting life together… not about someone being disappointed that they couldn’t have a rum and coke.


    We are doing our drinks much like you, but because our wedding is small (36 guests) we will have a few bottles of hard alcohol and a selection of coolers as well. I believe that since we are footing the bill for all the alcohol consumed we should be able to make the call on whats available to drink.




    Post # 7
    11271 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @RubyLeprechaun:  where are you having your reception?  you may want to be careful with the liquor laws or permits.  the last thing you want is the police to shut down your wedding and give you a fine.

    Post # 8
    12247 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think beer/wine/soda is fine! I’m just flashing to horrible images of people wandering around swigging from bottles of Jack!

    Post # 9
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @BrandNewBride:  lol I was sort of seeing something like that too

    Post # 10
    13251 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I believe that as a host, it is your obligation to properly host your guests, which means providing adequate food and beverage for your guests.  I think it’s inappropriate to suggest or imply that your guests should provide their own alcohol, and I would find it off-putting.

    Post # 11
    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Beer and wine should be plenty! If you are using a venue, you will almost definitely not be allowed to let people bring in their own liquor. Stick to your beer/wine/soda plan.

    Post # 12
    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @RubyLeprechaun:  I think your guests should drink whatever you provide. I like drinking wine but if that isn’t an option at a reception, I’ll just drink it some other time. No biggie.

    Post # 13
    4930 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I also voted other because of liquor laws. 

    Otherwise, I don’t think it’s tacky, but I wouldn’t do it. Beer and wine is plenty. 

    Post # 14
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Tacky may not be the correct word…

    But the idea certainly sounds a bit unusual…

    And very much dependent on WHERE you are having your Reception (as the others have said).

    For the record whatever you choose to provide is fine… (be it a Wet or Dry Reception)

    So, having Beer, Wine & Soda are quite adequate.

    Trying to find a way to tell folks to bring along their own liquor does seem weird to me (say what you want, BUT you are asking them to BYOB)

    And suggesting someone BYOB to a Wedding sounds strange to me… (image here of person all dressed up porting along a brown paper bag… or if this is a “covert” operation in a licensed venue such as a Restaurant, Club, Reception Hall … in that you’d be going against the Liqour License / Permits… then what a flask ??)

    The ONLY occasion when I could see this happening would be if it was a very very casual Wedding… such as a Back Yard BBQ / Wedding at the Cottage etc… and folks thought they’d bring along some “booze” on their own accord to help out with the Celebration

    Hope this helps,


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