Post # 1
it’s not a strange as it may seem, I currently don’t and can’t wear my engagement ring because i have athritis and my fingers swell a lot, i can wear it in the evening most days, depending on the kind of day i’ve had, i can’t sleep in it or it will be stuck on in the mornings and start to cut of my circulation. so i just don’t wear it 🙁
because of the problems i have wearing my engagement ring i told Fiance i will not be spending a lot of money on my wedding ring infact it has cost less than £100. even tho fi was willing to spend a lot more on such a perminant item. well in my case it’s not so perminant. i would hardly ever get to wear it. The one he has purchased fits perfectly in the evenings and on good days where my fingers don’t swell so much, do you think i would be wrong in purchasing and identical second ring in a size or two larger for ‘the bad days’
i get a little bit worried on losing the sentiment of the official ring by having a second.
would you, if you were in my position?
Post # 3
I have an e-ring and plan on getting two bands: 1 band that is custom made to fit my e-ring and 1 plain platinum band. I’m a nurse and it just isn’t practical, safe or clean for me to wear rings to work but I think a plain band will be easily cleaned and with rounded edges won’t degrade the integrity of my gloves. That being said, the sentiment won’t be lost, your e-ring will always be your e-ring!!!
Post # 4
I think it’s perfectly fine to have rings in two different sizes. It’s not like you’re doing it to be vain or anything, you’re doing it so you can show you’re married even if your arthritis is flaring up or not. Both of my parents have arthritic fingers and they don’t wear wedding bands because of it. I think they wish they could though.
If I was in your position, I’d probably get two rings too.
Post # 5
I think that sounds like a great idea! It’s not the ring itself that holds the sentiment – it’s what it represents.
Post # 6
@stokieGal: Sorry to hear about your arthritis…
I sometimes get a little bit of swelling in my hands ( I also suffer from
Arthritis) and I had 2 pregnancies, witj which I gained weight
I’m not sure how significant your swelling is …
So, this is what I have done:
I had my engagement ring resized up 1… From 6 to 7.
My fingers are not as big, so, I got 2 thin Plain gold bands (2 mm)
And a matching eternity band to match my engagement ring (3 mm.) all size 6.
I put the wedding bands on top of my ER to keep it in my finger
Because I don’t ever take it off (except to clean it).
My ER is loose but I know it won’t come off.
Have you considered having your ER resized??
I would not feel bad about having 1, 2, 3 or more rings. It should be
Whatever works best for you and your health. Good luck!
Post # 7
@caffeiney: <– what she said.
I have more than one wedding band, a plain one for work (work at a hospital) and my diamond one for those times I want to be more sparkly. It’s the symbolism and not the physical ring itself that’s what’s important to me so that’s why I don’t find it a big deal to change it around.
I got my plain band from overstock.com and I spent less than $60.
Post # 8
thanks ladies, i never even considered many women would do this in hospital and similar roles.
gildaroxana my arthritis is pretty bad, i’m only 27 and expect in future years it will get much worse. i think i will speak to Fi about getting a second one, afterall it will still be within the orginal budget, i think it bothers him i do not wear my ER so this will also suit him too. also would like it to fit on the big day, i may suggest he brings both and i will get a bm to text him before hand to let him know which i need 🙂
thanks bee’s good advise as usual x
Post # 9
It is not bad at all to have two rings! You have a more than a legitimate reason to have two rings. There are people who lose rings and replace them. There are people who upgrade to a more expensive or fancier ring. And… there are people like me who want more than one band only to be able to switch things up every now and then. Of course it is not wrong to have two wedding rings.
Post # 10
Thats a great solution you came up with! That way you still get to have a ring on that finger 🙂
Post # 11
I would have more than one ring if couldn’t always wear one because of sizing issues. I think it is ok to have multiple rings no matter the reason behind them (occupational, physical or otherwise) and the sentiment isn’t lost because what they symbolize is larger than the physical representation.
Post # 12
I don’t think there is anything wrong with having two rings! I do. I have the one that does with my e-ring and the one Mr. Hedgie bought me to wear to work. The second one is super cheap and has fake diamonds in it so if it gets messed up, it is no big deal to replace. And if a “diamond” gets lost, it wont really matter.
Post # 13
i have 2 wedding rings, one is a diamond band for when i wear my ering and eternity band and the other is a plain gold band that i wear 99% of the time…. so i guess i haev 4 rings actually
Post # 14
You’ll never lose the sentiment of your original ring, especially as you have such a legitimate reason for having another. I am a Doctor so for the same reason as some of the girls above I’m getting two rings, an eternity band and a cheap, plain band to be worn at work. It makes sense to have one for work which holds no sentiment and can be replaced if necessary. (And it’s a great excuse for extra ring shopping!)
Post # 14
stokieGal : I do wear one in each hand because I am Eastern Orthodox. Our wedding finger is in the right hand so there I wear the one blessed in church (usually just the band as I am right handed and the ering has a high profile). Because I live in US, I wear one of two other I own in my left so there’s no doubt I’m married.
Post # 15
stokieGal : a really good jeweler can put a tiny hinge and clasp on you rings so they can be put on without going over your knuckle and can be easily removed if your fingers swell.