(Closed) Is it wrong to spend more on the open bar than the officiant?????

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Thats similar to what I am paying!

Don;t worry about it – alcohol is expensive… and worth it 😉

Post # 4
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that’s fine! Seriously, alcohol is expensive! Also, she’s not making a big trip or anything! I think it’s all going to be fine 🙂

Post # 5
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We didn’t spend anything on our officiant because he was our brother in law, and we spent a TON on the bar (that’s what you get when you underestimate consumption :/).  Honestly, the ceremony is always going to be so much cheaper than the reception.  For everyone.  We all know the ceremony is the important part of the day, but the reception is the gift you give your guests for supporting and loving you and your new husband.  I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Um… our officiant is free and our alcohol will be about 1k. so I’d say its ok 🙂 

Post # 7
806 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think that’s more than fair.  If she’s willing to do it, I don’t know what there is to feel guilty about. 

The way I look at it, it really doesn’t have anything to do with what you’re spending on the rest of the wedding.

Post # 8
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

Honestly (and I’ll blog about this later) how important something is isn’t always related to costs.

If the ceremony is the most important part of the day, you can show that by the time and effort you put into designing it and the solemnity of the ceremony. But there’s no way that 15 minutes (plus necessary prepwork) by one person is going to match the cost for food & drinks for your entire guest list. It’s just logistics.

Post # 9
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Officiant – $100

Bar – $4K


Am I worried? Nope.

Post # 10
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Umm yeah.  Our officiant was the cheapest part of our wedding.  $150.  The bar was… considerably more.

Post # 11
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Totally normal.  Most officiants run between $100 – $500.  Alcohol is way more expensive, especially open bar!

Post # 12
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Meh, our officiant was $200 and our open bar was $700ish.

Post # 13
4485 posts
Honey bee

I don’t understand comparing the two. Obviously the ceremony is the most important part, yes, but officiants come in all price ranges. Alcohol is expensive by default, no matter how much or little you serve. The fact that the alcohol costs more has nothing at all to do with the importance factor of each. Unfortunately though, many people do put more importance on the alcohol than the officiant.

Post # 14
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My officiant charges $250.  If he charged $25/person, I’d probably be getting married at a courthouse!

Post # 15
1103 posts
Bumble bee

I would have thought this was the case for almost all weddings. We paid $500 for our celebrant. Only our dancing music was cheaper than that, because we used an iPod! I don’t think what you pay for a celebrant signifies the importance of your ceremony – that comes from the ceremony itself.

Post # 16
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Open bar is usually WAY more expensive than an officiant.

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