(Closed) Is it wrong to spend more on the open bar than the officiant?????

posted 11 years ago in Food
Post # 3
3579 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Thats similar to what I am paying!

Don;t worry about it – alcohol is expensive… and worth it 😉

Post # 4
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that’s fine! Seriously, alcohol is expensive! Also, she’s not making a big trip or anything! I think it’s all going to be fine 🙂

Post # 5
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We didn’t spend anything on our officiant because he was our brother in law, and we spent a TON on the bar (that’s what you get when you underestimate consumption :/).  Honestly, the ceremony is always going to be so much cheaper than the reception.  For everyone.  We all know the ceremony is the important part of the day, but the reception is the gift you give your guests for supporting and loving you and your new husband.  I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 6
6980 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Um… our officiant is free and our alcohol will be about 1k. so I’d say its ok 🙂 

Post # 7
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think that’s more than fair.  If she’s willing to do it, I don’t know what there is to feel guilty about. 

The way I look at it, it really doesn’t have anything to do with what you’re spending on the rest of the wedding.

Post # 8
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

Honestly (and I’ll blog about this later) how important something is isn’t always related to costs.

If the ceremony is the most important part of the day, you can show that by the time and effort you put into designing it and the solemnity of the ceremony. But there’s no way that 15 minutes (plus necessary prepwork) by one person is going to match the cost for food & drinks for your entire guest list. It’s just logistics.

Post # 9
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Officiant – $100

Bar – $4K


Am I worried? Nope.

Post # 10
5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Umm yeah.  Our officiant was the cheapest part of our wedding.  $150.  The bar was… considerably more.

Post # 11
41 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

Totally normal.  Most officiants run between $100 – $500.  Alcohol is way more expensive, especially open bar!

Post # 12
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Meh, our officiant was $200 and our open bar was $700ish.

Post # 13
2492 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t understand comparing the two. Obviously the ceremony is the most important part, yes, but officiants come in all price ranges. Alcohol is expensive by default, no matter how much or little you serve. The fact that the alcohol costs more has nothing at all to do with the importance factor of each. Unfortunately though, many people do put more importance on the alcohol than the officiant.

Post # 14
936 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My officiant charges $250.  If he charged $25/person, I’d probably be getting married at a courthouse!

Post # 15
671 posts
Busy bee

I would have thought this was the case for almost all weddings. We paid $500 for our celebrant. Only our dancing music was cheaper than that, because we used an iPod! I don’t think what you pay for a celebrant signifies the importance of your ceremony – that comes from the ceremony itself.

Post # 16
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Open bar is usually WAY more expensive than an officiant.

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