(Closed) Is it wrong to want to do everything myself?

posted 7 years ago in April 2013
Post # 3
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s not wrong, but it may hurt their feelings if you don’t ask them for advice about anything at all.  My gals are far away and always offering.  They can’t do DIY projects, but I’ve asked them about things like shoes and flowers that they can research online.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m kind of like that too lol. I made so many things for my wedding but I preferred to make them myself, even though it was a huge undertaking for one person (I started early, so it worked out). Some of my BMs tried to help me with paper flowers, but most of theirs turned out really badly… I ended up secretly tossing them later lol…

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope! I pretty much did everything myself.  The only thing I did with one of my BM’s was go dress shopping, and I would have went by myself if I had to, but honestly, that part was more fun with her b/c we did the running of the bride shopping (after the craziness was over).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@sweetchiquita12: Most annoying thing to hear while planning your wedding “You should…” *scream*

Post # 8
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m like you. Im slight control freak/planner anyway. My bridesmaids ask me if they can help with anything, and I’m like, nope got it covered. I told them I just want them there with me on that day and show up in their pretty dress with a smile. I’ve been in so many weddings, I know how annoying it can be to people on the outside sometimes, so I’m trying to keep their part minimal. They are all happy I can tell..lol. Basically I ask my Fiance questions when I have them, or give him a “job”, and I go to my mom for advice. I find it’s smoother when you don’t get a million opinions too! Sometimes too many thoughts make you second guess yourself. Glad to see others are the same. 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am doing it all myself as well, super organized when it comes to party planning (and in general).  People aske to help, I’ll let them (like fmil made table linens).  As long as I can supervise and they can execute my wedding vision, I can use the help.  But I never ask.  

If so many people want to help, find something simple they can do and let them.  Or organize  a DIY party and get what you need done with all your girls (it’ll get done faster).

Post # 12
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780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No, I am doing everything myself, with the exception of my mom helping some. My Maid/Matron of Honor  syas she is too busy but if can wait until the day before the wedding, she can help do everything! I don’t think so!!! I didn’t ask for the help anyway. I am a self confessed control freak in the first place. Plus, the day before the wedding, my mom & I will be doing the flowers. (Mom is a florist)

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m the same way; I used to work in the wedding industry so I have a decent idea of what I want + like. I mainly like to just get sh*t done and it’s easier for me to do it than rely on others. I do have my Mother-In-Law and mom helping with occasional things and I’m sure my BMs will help with anything I might need closer to the date. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am mostly doing everything myself. I was raised if you want something done you have to do it yourself plus I am a bit of a control freak so that doesn’t help much. I don’t call any of my BMs asking for their assistance and they really don’t call offering any. My mom gives her input but I never really like it because it’s how she wants it and not how I want it. With that huge issue, I had to hire a wedding planner to help but she ended up not being much help either. Her taste is on the traditional side but I’m more outside the box :(. Therefore, leading me right back to doing everything myself and not getting really much of anyone else’s input on the subject.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@sweetchiquita12:  I’m trying to do everything myself because I want my wedding to look the way I want.  I am also trying to keep it within budget.  Monitoring everything is stressful, so I wish that I had people to help me do what I need them to do, not do what they want me to do.

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