Post # 1
I Kissed someone who I know has a crush on me- and I have a crush on him. My boyfriend has been away for 6 months and I got really drunk with this guy that I study with. We kissed each other more than once- but I have difficulty remembering them ALL. NO we didnt sleep together! And yes I feel like a total A**HOLE. I cant stop feeling terrible about it.. and I cant help thinking that it was nothing even though it was something… Supportive comments please :/
The “other guy” said – “what we did last night was out of line, im happy to put it all behind us and remain friends if you are” – “I said yeah sure – we are both retards”.
HELP WHAT DO I DO?
FYI : I have no intention of leaving my current boyfriend – I was just in desperate need of attention. love. affection. I feel like a total mole.
Post # 3
I am gonna go with yes it is . Sorry. 🙁
Post # 4
yes, technically cheating. The best thing to do in this case, is be honest and tell your boyfriend. Even having feelings for someone else is wrong… being drunk shouldnt be a reason to think that kissing someone else is okay. Good luck.
Post # 5
How would you feel if your boyfriend did this with a girl while drunk and far from you? I imagine you’d feel he cheated you. I would.
You may want to reevaluate if you should spend time around this person. I know he is a good friend, but you like him, he likes you, and a situation developed where you ended up kissing him. That may not be the best situation to continue putting yourself in.
Post # 6
I categorise cheating as anything you do that you would not want to tell you partner about. Because deception of any kind is cheating IMO.
So yeah, sorry.
I think you really need to clear the air and talk about it to your SO. The sooner the better, he will probably be more receptive to hearing your apology and explanation if you are up front, instead of letting it fester for a long time.
Post # 7
This is cheating. I think you need avoid putting yourself in positions where it’s easy to cheat (ie drunk, alone with your crush)
Post # 8
I think an important lesson learned is…don’t get drunk with a crush if you’re already in a relationship.
Putting yourself in that situation is putting your relationship in jeopardy. You already have inappropriate feelings (crush). Once you start drinking in that situation, you know your judgement will be impaired, and you won’t be able to control your impulses very well.
So in this case, yes, it’s cheating. But I’d call it low level cheating, as you were drunk and no more than kissing. You did behave selfishly, but at least you didn’t sleep with the guy.
Post # 9
Yes I would – you are right. I will totally stay away from this guy from now on. So stupid of me.. I dont think I can tell my boyfriend. When I stay away I will not have anymore issues. If I tell my boyfriend im screwed.
Post # 11
@Peachcream: You should tell your SO.
Post # 12
Is your title a real question?
Post # 13
I think in some situations things are better off un-said, yes you cheated, yes it was wrong, no you are not a bad person, we all make stupid mistakes, telling your bf will just make you feel better not him. just make sure it never happens again.
If you need anyone to talk to about this, pm me i did the same thing, my Darling Husband found out, we worked through it and now we are very happy, so while there is no excuses I can understand.
Post # 14
Its cheating, alcohol is not an excuse for anything (cheating, abuse etc). I don’t understand how you could be crushing on another guy when you love your bf? But getting drunk and being with him was a conscious decision on both your parts, so it can’t really be said that it was an accident 🙁 sorry!
Post # 15
I would tell him because if you keep it a secret, when he eventually finds out (which he inevitably will) and you kept it a secret he will 1) feel betrayed that you didn’t even tell him 2) think that it meant something because you didn’t tell him 3) will be very upset that by not telling him you have in essence been lying to him every day of your lives since…
Post # 16
i cant even believe you are asking the question. of course it is. sorry, but it is.