(Closed) Is life really a dance

posted 2 weeks ago in Long Distance Relationships
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Congrats, OP.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Answer to the question in your title: no. Life isn’t a silly, melodramatic hollywood film, stirring music and roll end credits when you fall “so in love” with a stranger you see on a dance floor. 

but ::slow clap:: ? I hope you enjoyed writing that. It felt self-indulgent over here. 

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Sugar Beekeeper

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@Janiceking:  

Oh good. Most of us do survive high school/teenage drama .

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

I like the title of your post, OP. It’s a bit of a provocative question. I do think that each life is a dramatic, absurd, and beautiful work of art! So maybe life is a dance in a way. I had fun reading your story 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

“In that moment I knew I was done for and that I’d never loved anyone like I loved him and he truly understood me . We quit the get love quick schemes and made a life together .

OP I enjoyed reading your story, however this part is contradictory. Moments after first seeing this man you felt you were in love and had never been so understood.  This is the very definition of a get love quick scheme. I hope it works out for you though, sincerely. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

You can’t know someone is the love of your life and that they understand you from them asking you for a dance and you responding. 

This was a nice story if it were in a romance novel, and I appreciate the attempt at metaphor, but this is not how life works. Everyone has had high school and college romances fall apart. It’s called dating, and sometimes it’s hard. It’s gritty and emotional and forces you to grow. It hopefully leads you to a place where you have a mature connection with someone that grows into the love you’ve been looking for. That’s it. 

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Busy bee

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@Janiceking:  lol Upon skimming this I see you’ve included the plotline to a popular Taylor Swift song (No Body No Crime) … I don’t know enough of her songs to know if this is an entirely made up story, but wouldn’t blow my mind if so, that’s for sure.

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Busy bee

Could have sworn I’ve seen this movie on the Lifetime (or Hallmark) channel.

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Busy bee
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@Ellak30:  Definitely made up of Taylor Swift themes. I’m a huge fan haha. 

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Bee Keeper
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@Janiceking:  your best friend went missing when her husband was cheating on her? As in, a missing person? Or just stopped communicating with you

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Worker bee

Perhaps, for some people, life is a “dance.” Particularly for those for whom prom night is still a formative moment. Life lived well, however, should be a series of well considered decisions. Interesting story, OP, but a series of break ups really isn’t a “journey.” 

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Uhh, so in summary, you had a tough time getting over your first boyfriend, had a few failed relationships, then found love again and married? That’s the arc of most people’s lives, but thanks for the story. 

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Busy bee

I hope writing this helped you somehow, bee. I would say you’re nowhere near done learning.

To answer your question in my own wacky way, yes, life can be a dance. It can be the kind of dance you’ve described here—a tragic high school dance full of false “romantic” lures and toxic social dynamics—if you let it. It can also be a frantic, sweaty handcore dance where you dance mostly with yourself and enjoy the music and refuse to be self-conscious (this is fun). It can also be a studied, perfected waltz between two people, where it feels like you’re floating because you’re both equally invested and your skills are matched and you know how to lead or be led without losing your footing. You get to choose the dance you attend, though bee. You don’t have to get swept along because someone invites you.

And that’s my ridiculous metaphor for the day 🙂 . This post was a weird trip.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Looked up the Taylor swift song pp mentioned. The wife who went missing was called este 😒

I THOUGHT it was bizarre that a missing best friend was just a side note, now I know why 

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