Post # 1

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Worker bee
Photographer, set…Venue…Set…details set…Groom……..Gone
I am not sure how to go about saying this, and it hurts to say this…But I am not getting married anymore.
He was cheating, then put his hands on me. That was the final straw.
Just so you all know I am still here to look around and suggest. I am not going anywhere
Post # 3

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Bumble bee
I’m so very sorry to hear…and I’m sending many good thoughts your way on your journey toward healing your heart.
Post # 4

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Blushing bee
I’m sorry to hear that. I will pray that you find the strength to gather yourself up from this situation. I hope you have a close circle of people that you can count on to comfort you.
Post # 5

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Sugar bee
I am so sorry to hear this. I doubt there is any silver linings now, but if there is one, it is that you avoided a life with a man who would cheat on you and hurt you. That is a blessing. I wish you strength and love during this hard time. And after you get through the worst, hope that you find someone worthy of your love and commitment.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
I’m so sorry! What a nightmare. Unfortunately, the answer to your question is "sometimes," but only for a short time. I promise, happiness will come again eventually (although I know it’s hard to hear that right now). Do you have friends/family/etc. to lean on and help you through this? **hugs**
Post # 7

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Bumble bee
This is a message (and image) I’ve found helpful in the past:
"Then, when it seems we will never smile again, life comes back."
Post # 9

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Worker bee
thanks so much. I always thought he was the one, but I guess once the rings on the gloves come off huh?
Thanks for everything ladies and have a healthy happy marriage or time planning
Serenity
Post # 10

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Buzzing bee
Serenity- I’m so sorry to hear this. You are totally doing what is best for you, but it takes a strong woman to stand up for herself. I really respect you for making that decision. I’ll be keeping good thoughts for you as you move on to bigger and better things.
Post # 11

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Busy Beekeeper
Serenity – first off, ((((hugs)))). second, I’ll tell you what my mom told me when me the ex cheated and lied to me – just be glad you found out before you got married and had children!! Its so hard but easy to walk away now since you have no strings attached but heart strings. greive for a few days and then throw yourself into what makes you happy and don’t look back. Better things are in your future
Post # 12

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Sugar bee
So sorry. It’s so hard right now. I know one day you will look back and be glad this marriage didn’t take place. If you’ve never heard the Martina McBride song, "Wrong Again", check it out. (Hugs.)
Post # 13

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Busy bee
I’m so sorry, and I know it’s not likely what you want to hear, but it’s probably for the best in the long run that you won’t be with someone for the rest of your life who would hurt you physically and emotionally like that.
Best wishes.
Post # 14

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Worker bee
Thanks for everything. Although the wedding is off I am still going to have everything planned out that is my dream wedding,. that stuff makes me feel better lol I love wedding planning so there goes what i will do to be better 😛 i know bad huh?
Huggles to all
Serenity
Post # 15

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Busy Beekeeper
Hugs and so sorry to hear he’s "that" kind of guy.
I divorced my x b/c he cheated and he turned out to be anything but the man I believed him to be.
Please count it as a blessing you found out NOW before you moved thru life with him and became a parent with him that he is incapable of honoring either YOU or his marriage and vows.
Give your heart time to heal. We’ll be here when Mr. Right comes along and you’re welcome here always regardless if the wedding is now or next year or ten years from now. Nothing but love!
Post # 16

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Blushing bee
I had a little pang of hurt for you just reading your first post- so sorry. Something similar happened to one of my BMs, she was only a month out. I hope you were at least able to get some of your deposits back, even though that is the farthest from the important part.
I won’t tell you that two years later she is perfect and happy, but she is much better off and happier than she was before. I hope that, in time, you can make peace with the mistakes he made. Until then: hugs, prayers, and love!