(Closed) Is marriage what you thought it would be?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Is marriage is what you thought it would be?
    NO, it's better : (94 votes)
    52 %
    NO, it's worse : (20 votes)
    11 %
    Yes it's exactly what I thought it would be : (66 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It’s so much better than I thought it would be! I’m no longer a newlywed, but that first year, and every year after has just plain gotten better and better with my Darling Husband. I feel like it’s us against the world, and I have the best partner in crime a girl could ask for :o) 

    Post # 4
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wish I knew other newlyweds in real life. These first 6 months have been the most AMAZING 6 months of my life. I just feel so much more closer to my husband and honestly am more in love with him than the day I got married.

    I wish I could share it with the world!! I have so many friends who are resigning themselves to loveless marriages because that’s what they think all marriages are and I’d love to tell them to keep looking.They keep saying, “but no one actually likes their husband” and “people fight all the time, it’s normal.” Who knows what’s right and what’s wrong, but that certainly hasn’t been my experience.

    I went out with some old friends for drinks yesterday and I came home to my entire home vacuumed, mopped, and the wood floors waxed. Yippee!

    Post # 5
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    It’s pretty much what I thought it would be. May I ask, in what ways is it so much better than you thought it would be? 

    Post # 6
    Member
    2227 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    It’s pretty much what I expected. I knew our first 3 months would be busy since I just started law school & Mr Rugbee’s working towards his accounting designation (on top of job). We pretty much sit at opposite ends of the apartment studying until bedtime.

    I kind of wish we could have the typical newlywed experience but this didn’t come as a surprise to me.

    Post # 7
    Member
    5787 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Its pretty much what I thought it would be but better somehow. I didn’t expect much to change (we lived together for years pre-wedding) but I didn’t expect to feel more like a team. I don’t know if its just in my head or being formally acknowledged but its like I *officially* have someone in my corner no matter what.

    Post # 9
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    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It’s better! We have actually had a very stressful first 6 months (DH is changing careers, and we have a lot of uncertainty in our lives right now), but I love being so bonded to a person.

    I love ending my day next to the same person every night; even when we did the same as fiance(e)s, it feels different now. Even when I am SO irritated with him, it’s the irritation you feel with a family member – there is no tenuous bond that might be broken because you snapped at each other. You know that  even if you are frustrated, at the end of the day that person is your teammate.  Love it!

    Post # 11
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    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    it’s so much better than i thought as well! we are having a blast, even with the hard times of figuring each other out.

    Post # 13
    Member
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @CharmCityLady:  To answer your question, my Darling Husband and I have been through so much over the last 5 years. We didn’t live together before we were married, so when I finally did move in, it was like a new adventure for us. We immediately went through my mom getting breast cancer, my grandmother breaking her hip and me having to help out since my mom was being treated for her breast cancer. We then went through buying a house together as well as struggling with TTC. He’s been there for me 200%, and it just made me fall more and more in love with him. I’m finding out that he was the best choice in a husband that I could have ever made. Not that I didn’t know that before we were married, but it’s situations like these that make you appreciate him so much more. 

    Post # 15
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    928 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Marriage has been so much better than I thought it would be! We’ve been together for 10 years, and lived together for 4 before getting hitched and didn’t think we could get any closer. But somehow, being married really pushed us to another level of ‘togetherness.’ Like we’re officially on the same team and things are so much more real. Now when we talk about buying a house, or having kids, or even chatting about our future we can actually envision those things happening because we’re officially married.

    We’ve both known people who have gotten married for superficial reasons – my friends who’ve wanted the ring more than the committment, his friends who have done it because they’ve been dating the same person for 2 – 3 years and those seem to be the marriages that aren’t doing very well.

    Like @2PeasinaPod:  every day shows that he’s the best person for me.

    Post # 16
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Marriage has been pretty much what I expected but that’s a good thing!  I expected to continue to fall in love with my husband every day.  I expected to love house hunting with him and to build our home together.  I expected to always feel supported by him and loved by him.

    I appreciate my husband so much every day.

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