Is mommy-to-be-zilla a thing?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
Hostess
3877 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I think “person-zilla” is a thing.  They will simply be bat-shit crazy and controlling in every aspect of their life.  You won’t ever please them, so why even try?  I would just make the blanket and step out of the way of her planning steamroller. 

Post # 3
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3311 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think some people are naturally demanding and controlling. You don’t want that stress. Let her Maid/Matron of Honor plan the shower.

Post # 4
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2680 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t know if it’s a “new thing.” Some people are just incredibly self absorbed and entitled. Honestly, everytime I hear a story like this, I’m amazed that someone who behaves that way actually has any friends! 

You sound like a thoughtful person and a good friend. Contribute whatever you would like to, but don’t feel pressured to do anything ridiculous. 

Post # 5
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2014 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would just nope out of this so fast. If she wants to be that controlling, then great. She can plan it or find someone that will. No one has to plan a shower for someone. It’s gift. 

Post # 7
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1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

I’m British and baby showers are a fairly new thing here. I did go to one last year where the mum to be hired a hall, had a cake made and sent out a list of gifts they’d like and what they don’t need. Needless to say there was some major eye-rolling. She’s called  herself a princess ever since I can remember.

At least your friend seems generous so it isn’t a one way thing. Probably best to let her plan what she wants. I mean she’s had the wedding and now a baby so there can’t be much else she’ll need to plan to the nth degree. Until the next baby shower…

I find big gender reveal parties too obnoxious so I draw the line at attending those.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Isilme :  One of you (or all of you) need to tell her “We love you, we’re planning a shower, but WE are planning the shower. Let us know some dates that would be convenient, and when we know how many people we can host, we’ll get your input on the guest list. In the meantime, close the FB group because we’re communicating amongst ourselves just fine.”

Post # 9
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1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Maybe there’s a reason only 30 out of 100 people showed up to her wedding.

Post # 10
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1000 posts
Bumble bee

There’s no excuse to be overly demaning and demeaning of other people, whetherthey are getting married or having a baby. A mean person is just going to be mean whenever. You shouldn’t be nice to them every time they throw out an excuse. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Isilme :  Showers are given as a privilege not as a demand.  The fact that she is demanding how she wants her shower to go is completely inappropriate and seriously she sounds completely delusional.

Post # 12
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3291 posts
Sugar bee

desertgypsy :  100% agree with “personzilla”.

My SIL is one of these lovely creatures… She decided to  throw herself a baby shower, roped me into organising it even though I said NO due to my study load – she’s very manipulative. And really self absorbed. Nothing has changed since she had the baby – she now likes to think she gave birth to baby jesus. *sigh*

Post # 13
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906 posts
Busy bee

I am guilty of being a little demanding. For my bridal shower I did refer my BMs to my pinterest board. After 2-3 weeks of this my mom and my sisters pulled me to the side and told me to BACK OFF! And the planning was their concern and that I needed to mind my business and enjoy whatever they gave me. I was stressed and little anxious leading up to the day, but they gave me a lovely shower which was waaaayyy better than my pinterest board. If she is a good friend just let her know she needs to chill. 

Post # 14
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1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I agree with Daisy_Mae : . She probably doesn’t even realize what she is doing is making other people uncomfortable. Someone (or multiple people) need to tell her to calm down and relax. The shower planning is under control, and you will talk to her when you need input about the guest list.

Post # 15
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1053 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I think as a mommy-to-be you can request things such as a co-ed shower, but you can’t demand people do anything for you.

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