- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I’ve given each of my 5 bridesmaids $100 to put towards the cost of their dress. They are all choosing to wear whatever they want (as long as it’s navy, chiffon and long) so they can select a gown that fits into their price range. Is it ok to consider this a big part of their bridesmaid gift? I planned on getting them something else fun, like a jacket to wear to get ready in or robe or something, but our budget is so busted that we’re having a hard time coming up with more than $15 or so extra for each girl.
We are paying for our own wedding completely and it’s costing much more than we ever anticipated it to. (family drama and that’s a whole other post!) We’re not going into debt, that’s where we draw the line, but we’re cutting it close with savings as well. (We already have a house and are stable so we’re not being irresponsible, just losing most of our fun money) After reading the boards here I’m noticing that bride’s are spending upwards of a few grand on their girls and while I totally think that’s awesome and my girls deserve it more than anyone, it’s just not for us. (got laid off in Jan and took a 45% paycut) I feel so bad that I can’t show them how much I appreciate their support and love for us and feel even worse because they’re throwing us a shower and planned a Vegas bachelorette party. (totally optional but still)
Is it tacky to gift them with something small and cute and consider a good portion of their gift the dress money? I’ve been in a few weddings and I’ve received a) a candle and b) a keychain. Maybe it’s geographical but I’ve never received gifts like the ones the bmaids of the brides on here are so lucky to have and now I’m worried my girls are expecting that. They know money is super tight but I just feel awful that I can’t give more.
Anybody else with me?