Post # 1
With PoB going out of business my front runner Bridesmaid or Best Man gown (style 1610) is no longer an option. Has anyone had a Monique Lhuillier bridesmaid dress?? The one dress I just fell in love with for my BM’s is a ML style 450049. IS this too much to ask them to wear? They know I will help pay for anything over 200 dollars so it’s more like I should be ready to shell out to help if the dress is too expensive? My dress is 6500 so I want them to have the same caliber of gown. Are these dresses even worth it? I haven’t seen it in person yet.
Post # 3
It really depends on where your BMs are at financially…can they afford up to $200?
Post # 4
If you will cover their expense beyond $200 I think it is perfectly acceptable. My bridemaids all spent about that after tax on their dresses, and it has not been an issue at all. I’ll probably be helping them a little as part of their bridesmaids gifts and I won’t be requiring pro hair/makeup, specific shoes or jewelry, etc, so if you’ll be expecting them to pay for any of those extras then factor that cost in also.
Post # 5
I personally think $200 is a bit too high, especially factoring in alterations, jewelry, hair, makeup, etc. As a bridesmaid, I’m more comfortable in the $100-150 range considering this is a dress I likely wouldn’t be wearing again (that goes double for any floor length dress, like the ML) But, honestly, I think you can find a good quality dress for way below $200. Just because you spent more on a designer dress doesn’t mean your bridesmaids need to do the same. Also, I don’t think these particular gowns are flattering. There seems to be lots of extra material in the skirt which might make your girls appear larger than they are.
Post # 6
It really depends on the financial situation of your bridesmaids and also whether it is in your budget to help pay for the extra cost for each of them. As others have suggested, take into consideration the alteration costs as well.
These are gorgeous dresses though!
Post # 7
What do they cost? If your BMs are not comfortable accepting financial assistance, will they be financially harmed by the expense?
My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were $350 b/c I wanted silk (or at least natural fabric), made in USA and we needed a rush. I paid entirely for one Bridesmaid or Best Man who happily accepted. Another wouldn’t hear of it, and while it was generous for her to agree to it, I know that she is very financially secure and didn’t go into debt as a matter of pride.
Post # 8
Jim Hjelm makes some of these types of gowns, and I have seen this cut on 2 girls – one rockin body, one more “full figured” and it’s beautiful on both. The extra fabric covers and they thought the dresses were fun and comfortable.
I think the ML might be 300. This seems like a lot but my girls aren’t required to get professional hair and make-up, they just have to look well put-together on the big day. So far they are all okay with the current $200 budget.
The Jim Hjelm dresses just don’t seem to carry the same formal beauty as these 2. Maybe I just pull from my own pocket? I won’t make them do anything they aren’t comfortable with.
for $300+ it better be awesome (plus with such a long dress who will see shoes?)
Post # 9
My girls have Monique Lhuiller dresses, they were $330? and I paid for them entirely. I like a PP, wanted nice fabric and we tried on lesser expensive dresses like (although still expensive) Bill Levkoff and Dessy group dresses and they just didn’t look as good. To me the quality was worth it and I love my bms dresses (style 450017). The only thing I would note is that their floor length dresses came EXTREMELY long so all of my girls will need it hemmed, a cost I hadn’t planned on paying for, and luckily my girls don’t mind paying for that.
Post # 10
If everyone is okay with the money arrangement, then go for it. If there’s someone that may need extra help, then help them out. You know their financial situation without asking them.
I’ve been in several weddings. Most dresses were about $130-150 or so. That seemed normal to me. Then, I was a bm for a friend while I was unemployed and she picked out a $250 dress (plus alterations). That was painful. And, she asked all of us to get our hair done. And there were hotel costs. At the end of it, I simply couldn’t afford a wedding gift. I felt bad. The couple got their gift much, much, much later (I got a job at a non-profit and stayed broke, so it was well after the year rule).
For my wedding, I have a friend who was about to back out of the wedding because of the costs. I expected this (I already knew finances for her and her husband are tight). I hired her to help me with my stationary and for payment I’m flying her out and footing the bill for all of her expenses.
Just be considerate to your bm. These are your people. Take care of them, they’ve always been there for you.
Post # 11
I just picked a Monique dress. My bridesmaids LOVE it and all say they will wear it again after the wedding. The dresses were $188.00 from Nordstrom. No one complained about the price because they all say they will wear them again.