(Closed) Is my bridal party too small?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s your wedding, I say do whatever you feel is best.  My cousin didn’t have any attendants at their wedding and I don’t think anyone really noticed. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m having my brother and he’s having his brother and best friend.  Our wedding is a lot smaller at 30 people but my theory is that you should have people that mean something to you up there.  I’m not a fan of the idea of adding people in just to make it look better or to have more when you really aren’t close to them.  So in my opinion it makes it more special.  Smile

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m only having two girls and he’s having two guys. I never questioned whether it was too small or not! I think it’s a fine size if that’s what you want!

You definitely won’t look stupid! I wouldn’t worry about what the “rules” are.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it is more than enough! I understand that some couples are very social and have lots of close friends but I sometime feel that some brides are include way more bridesmaids than they really want for the sake of appearances and end up regretting it. More bridesmaids too often means more drama (especially if you are not so close to some of them), more logistic troubles and so on!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think the bridal party should be those who are close to the couple. It would be silly to include others you aren’t as close to just because you are having 200 guests. We are expecting around 75 guests and I have 5 bridesmaids. It never occurred to me to have less since I’m having a small wedding. The “rules” are silly.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@7-9-11bride: I completely agree. You don’t want “filler” attendants to just stand up there to reach a quota. You’ll look back on it in ten years and wish you hadn’t. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’ll look fine! That’s WAY better than including people that you don’t REALLY want in your wedding!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Adding in people that aren’t that important to you just to fulfill some type of rule seems silly.  Have only who you want to stand there with you.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you’re good! I wish I’d had a smaller wedding party, I’m not really close w/ 2 of the 3 girls I picked (but did so because 2 of them are SIL, I did it has more of a favor to DH). Pick the people who are closest to you and be done with it!

By The Way, I love your user name! Another Yankees fan here! 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ive never heard of such a ratio! Have who you want up there!

My Groom is having 3 guys and I am having 3 or 4 girls!

Plus two flower girls!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

it’s not too small at all!  you should only have people who are important to you in your bridal party, whether that’s 2 or 20.  i happen to like smaller bridal parties, way less drama.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve never heard that rule, but I don’t personally think it matters.  We had 730 guests, but only 5 bridesmaids.  By that rule, I guess we should have had 15.  No one said anything about it, so I guess it wasn’t a big deal! : )

My suggestion is have those in your wedding that you want in your wedding.  Not people just to meet a silly rule! : )

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that’s fine.  You definitely shouldn’t feel pressured to include or exclude people just because of the numbers.

Also – I love your username.  Go Yanks!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

no one really cares how big your bridal party is. i think the “rule” is there to guard against the reverse scenario, like having 15 bridesmaids with only 50 guests.

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